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    scarlingscarling Member Posts: 708 Arc User
    coupaholic wrote: »
    That's nice. I'll be busy taking the Star Trek approach to homosexuality or race for that matter, which is to treat as an already-accepted thing no more worth mentioning than heterosexuality and ignore it.

    Yup, me too. That is true equality.

    Hey, yea, that's a nice thought. I'm totally for that, but we don't live in the future. Here in the present, its a thing and equality is still something that doesn't truly exist.
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    alex284alex284 Member Posts: 366 Arc User
    questerius wrote: »
    personally i don't like this idea of "community", this is just a way of creating ghettos. i understand that you are proud to be who you are, but no need to be hidden behind a "community" in this game or in rl, same thing for all the other "communities" (black, asian, christian etc etc etc). the world would be a better place without gates between people

    Um, who's hidden here? The entire point of Pride is visibility. These folks (my fleet!) posted on the STO forums for everyone to see and invited everyone in the game.

    I don't know how much closer to the opposite of hiding we can get.
    questerius wrote: »
    It's the absurdity of creating a pride event which is erecting walls. By hosting a pride event the LGBT community, for as far as there is such a thing, effectively sets itself apart from everyone else thereby creating obstacles between both communities (LGBT and non LGBT).​​

    Yes, because it was only Pride that invented the idea that LGBT people are treated differently. Nope, centuries of homophobia and transphobia didn't have anything to do with it.

    They were great uniters, actually! Homophobia lets people of all sexual orientations come together to beat up a g@y person!
    questerius wrote: »
    If i were to host a pride event for heterosexuals, or simply for men, people would at the very least wonder if i lost my sanity.
    So why is a pride event suddenly a good idea when it's directed at a LGBT community.​​

    Maybe because no one has forced shame on straight people for being straight?

    Maybe because things sometimes exist for obvious reasons and not understanding those obvious reasons makes people question your grasp on reality?
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    questeriusquesterius Member Posts: 8,320 Arc User
    I think you need to look up what an 'oppressed minority' is dude.

    Oppressed minority? Dude, as you phrase it, what century do you live in. In the western world LGBT haven't been an oppressed minority for ages. Putin's Russia may be the exception, but everyone who isn't a butt buddy of Putin (excuse the phrase) is oppressed there.

    With all the political correctness and lawsuits one could make a convincing argument that heterosexuals and in particular heterosexual males are the current "oppressed minority".

    Either way by organizing a "pride" the existing gap will only be widened. If you want to be accepted then you need to find a balance between staying hidden and openly flaunting your sexuality and i can tell you here and now that a "pride" is not the silver bullet you're looking for.
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    worffan101worffan101 Member Posts: 9,518 Arc User
    questerius wrote: »
    I think you need to look up what an 'oppressed minority' is dude.

    Oppressed minority? Dude, as you phrase it, what century do you live in. In the western world LGBT haven't been an oppressed minority for ages. Putin's Russia may be the exception, but everyone who isn't a butt buddy of Putin (excuse the phrase) is oppressed there.

    With all the political correctness and lawsuits one could make a convincing argument that heterosexuals and in particular heterosexual males are the current "oppressed minority".

    Either way by organizing a "pride" the existing gap will only be widened. If you want to be accepted then you need to find a balance between staying hidden and openly flaunting your sexuality and i can tell you here and now that a "pride" is not the silver bullet you're looking for.
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    Aaand that's taking it too far, and I say that as a heterosexual male--a Caucasian het male, no less.

    LGBT people are only treated as people in some places. I happen to spend 99% of my time in one of those places. But unfortunately, Bryan Fischer still exists. The Westboro Baptist "Church" still exists. Homophobia is still a thing.

    And it will still be a thing until the only time anyone cares about sexual orientation is when they check to make sure that they have a compatible orientation with the person they have a crush on before they ask that person out.
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    admiraldunwalladmiraldunwall Member Posts: 57 Arc User
    edited July 2015
    questerius wrote: »
    I think you need to look up what an 'oppressed minority' is dude.

    Oppressed minority? Dude, as you phrase it, what century do you live in. In the western world LGBT haven't been an oppressed minority for ages. Putin's Russia may be the exception, but everyone who isn't a butt buddy of Putin (excuse the phrase) is oppressed there.

    With all the political correctness and lawsuits one could make a convincing argument that heterosexuals and in particular heterosexual males are the current "oppressed minority".

    Either way by organizing a "pride" the existing gap will only be widened. If you want to be accepted then you need to find a balance between staying hidden and openly flaunting your sexuality and i can tell you here and now that a "pride" is not the silver bullet you're looking for.
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    White male privilege level: OVERWHELMING

    Are you a male rights activist? Because frankly, comparing your struggles as a white male to that of an LGBT person is offensive. Please do tell me about the times you have been actively oppressed for simply being a white male.

    Suggesting that people (let alone LGBT people) should simply blend in or face the wrath of the judgement of others, is awfully laughable and is a very conservative ideal. If people lived their lives like this, the world would be a very grey, very complacent place.
    shazia9191 wrote: »
    questerius wrote: »
    I think you need to look up what an 'oppressed minority' is dude.

    Oppressed minority? Dude, as you phrase it, what century do you live in. In the western world LGBT haven't been an oppressed minority for ages. Putin's Russia may be the exception, but everyone who isn't a butt buddy of Putin (excuse the phrase) is oppressed there.

    With all the political correctness and lawsuits one could make a convincing argument that heterosexuals and in particular heterosexual males are the current "oppressed minority".

    Either way by organizing a "pride" the existing gap will only be widened. If you want to be accepted then you need to find a balance between staying hidden and openly flaunting your sexuality and i can tell you here and now that a "pride" is not the silver bullet you're looking for.
    ​​

    You have no idea what you're talking about. There is still open discrimination against people who identify as LGBT, and a couple court orders isn't going to change things overnight. While I would argue that acceptance for LGBT has increased dramatically in the last 10-15 years, that doesn't mean the problem is solved.
    Very well put I would say. Things are definitely better, but by no means does that mean everything is peachy.
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    markhawkmanmarkhawkman Member Posts: 35,231 Arc User
    scarling wrote: »
    coupaholic wrote: »
    That's nice. I'll be busy taking the Star Trek approach to homosexuality or race for that matter, which is to treat as an already-accepted thing no more worth mentioning than heterosexuality and ignore it.

    Yup, me too. That is true equality.

    Hey, yea, that's a nice thought. I'm totally for that, but we don't live in the future. Here in the present, its a thing and equality is still something that doesn't truly exist.
    There is only one path to true equality. Apathy. The only way that people will ever treat everyone as equals is to stop caring about what makes people different from each other. This will never happen, because it means that people must abandon the idea that being different makes them special. Well..... it makes you special all right... just like everyone else. :p
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    sheldonlcoopersheldonlcooper Member Posts: 4,042 Arc User
    edited July 2015
    This individual makes this argument every single time anyone mentions being g--a--y. Back in the closet says he. You offend my tender eyes.
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    szimszim Member Posts: 2,503 Arc User
    questerius wrote: »
    I think you need to look up what an 'oppressed minority' is dude.

    Oppressed minority? Dude, as you phrase it, what century do you live in. In the western world LGBT haven't been an oppressed minority for ages. Putin's Russia may be the exception, but everyone who isn't a butt buddy of Putin (excuse the phrase) is oppressed there.

    With all the political correctness and lawsuits one could make a convincing argument that heterosexuals and in particular heterosexual males are the current "oppressed minority".

    Either way by organizing a "pride" the existing gap will only be widened. If you want to be accepted then you need to find a balance between staying hidden and openly flaunting your sexuality and i can tell you here and now that a "pride" is not the silver bullet you're looking for.
    ​​

    You probably tell the same nonsense to black people. "The law says you have the same rights as white people do so you can't possibly tell me you are being oppressed in the US."

    Oh boy... how little you know... how little you understand.
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    gulberatgulberat Member Posts: 5,505 Arc User
    edited July 2015
    I speak only for myself here, but I think what we would do well to remember as a society is that rights and equality are not a zero-sum game. We all need to stop treating it that way. All sides are caught up in this illusion right now--a false belief that for one party to gain means taking away from another, and a false belief that our rights are independent of each other. I don't lay the fault for the illusion on one side or the other: we have all given false credence to it. When we demonize each other, we are accomplishing nothing and we stay trapped in our history.

    As long as we continue to believe that there are, or have to be, losers, then there will be. And there will continue to be tension, and resentment, and anger in a never-ending cycle of action and reaction. Further, if I deny someone their right to speak and act short of their outright attacking me or my property, or threatening to do so, then I am not free: I have created the very atmosphere of suppression that will ultimately backlash onto me.

    Real freedom looks suspiciously close to barely-controlled chaos, on the overall society level. There will always be offense in a free society, even though individual subgroups may decide where the limits are within their boundaries (for instance, if I run a forum and PWE runs a forum, each of us chooses on our private property what we will and won't allow, and our choices may not be the same). Sometimes, people need safe spaces where they can go when they need a break from the rough and tumble that comes with freedom. Some people need it more than others, especially where there is a history of past trauma. Sometimes it's me that needs a place to get away. That's why I am OK with individual forums, businesses, etc. setting up rules within their boundaries.

    But I don't think that "restricted" space can or should be everywhere. Freedom requires the ability to disagree openly, even vehemently, and to attempt to convince each other of different views--freedom to succeed in this and to fail, all without being forced. Either we all have this freedom, or none of us really do. This, along with the zero-sum fallacy, is what's causing us so much unnecessary strife.

    There is irony in that, I know, that as one who holds very strong beliefs, that I believe just as strongly that as a society we cannot impose it by coercion or by government (other than preventing people from threatening each other's lives or property). In fact, I believe that the choices I make only hold value insomuch as they are free choices that I have taken upon myself. It would be only the palest shadow of an imitation if it were coerced (though the liability would be on the coercing party). I speak only for myself, but it doesn't make my beliefs any weaker or less sincere. In fact, I believe strength is gained through the right exercise of freedom of choice.

    To the matter at hand? I have not had any problem interactions with members of Stonewall Fleet--so as far as I am concerned, the proper thing is for us to let each other be and respect each other's freedom.

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    markhawkmanmarkhawkman Member Posts: 35,231 Arc User
    gulberat wrote: »
    I speak only for myself here, but I think what we would do well to remember as a society is that rights and equality are not a zero-sum game. We all need to stop treating it that way. All sides are caught up in this illusion right now--a false belief that for one party to gain means taking away from another, and a false belief that our rights are independent of each other. I don't lay the fault for the illusion on one side or the other: we have all given false credence to it. When we demonize each other, we are accomplishing nothing and we stay trapped in our history.

    As long as we continue to believe that there are, or have to be, losers, then there will be. And there will continue to be tension, and resentment, and anger in a never-ending cycle of action and reaction. Further, if I deny someone their right to speak and act short of their outright attacking me or my property, or threatening to do so, then I am not free: I have created the very atmosphere of suppression that will ultimately backlash onto me.

    Real freedom looks suspiciously close to barely-controlled chaos, on the overall society level. There will always be offense in a free society, even though individual subgroups may decide where the limits are within their boundaries (for instance, if I run a forum and PWE runs a forum, each of us chooses on our private property what we will and won't allow, and our choices may not be the same). Sometimes, people need safe spaces where they can go when they need a break from the rough and tumble that comes with freedom. Some people need it more than others, especially where there is a history of past trauma. Sometimes it's me that needs a place to get away. That's why I am OK with individual forums, businesses, etc. setting up rules within their boundaries.

    But I don't think that "restricted" space can or should be everywhere. Freedom requires the ability to disagree openly, even vehemently, and to attempt to convince each other of different views--freedom to succeed in this and to fail, all without being forced. Either we all have this freedom, or none of us really do. This, along with the zero-sum fallacy, is what's causing us so much unnecessary strife.

    There is irony in that, I know, that as one who holds very strong beliefs, that I believe just as strongly that as a society we cannot impose it by coercion or by government (other than preventing people from threatening each other's lives or property). In fact, I believe that the choices I make only hold value insomuch as they are free choices that I have taken upon myself. It would be only the palest shadow of an imitation if it were coerced (though the liability would be on the coercing party). I speak only for myself, but it doesn't make my beliefs any weaker or less sincere. In fact, I believe strength is gained through the right exercise of freedom of choice.

    To the matter at hand? I have not had any problem interactions with members of Stonewall Fleet--so as far as I am concerned, the proper thing is for us to let each other be and respect each other's freedom.
    Well said. A free society is one where people are free to treat other people like DIRT. The only way to prevent that by law is to regulate freedom out of existence.

    Also there is that other matter. A society where people have varying beliefs will inevitably have situations where one person's definition of normal behavior is considered offensive to another. While some people claim you can avoid this with "education"... in reality there's simply too many way that it can possibly go wrong to prevent with "education". The only functional solution is for people to not get angry every time someone else does something they dislike. Such as declining to bake a cake...
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    thisslerthissler Member Posts: 2,055 Arc User
    shazia9191 wrote: »
    This is a thread inviting players to an in-game event held by another group of particular players. This is not a thread discussing the merits of LGBT pride of sense of community. This is not a thread to give us your take on homosexuality. I can only imagine what Trendy would think about this massive derail.
    I think that even if she decided to allow a post on a political topic she'd move it to Ten Forward where it belongs.
    Because that would show even handedness in moderation, and not the typical reactionary slamming of anyone that deviates from party line.

    I'm almost certain that this thread will stay right where it is, and warnings will be handed out.

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    straden0straden0 Member Posts: 78 Arc User
    edited July 2015
    questerius wrote: »
    eighrichte wrote: »
    The events will be open to the entire Star Trek Online community and we hope that you and your fleet will come join in.
    the world would be a better place without gates between people

    It's hard to think of something less like putting gates between people than inviting literally everybody in STO to join in their event.

    It's the absurdity of creating a pride event which is erecting walls. By hosting a pride event the LGBT community, for as far as there is such a thing, effectively sets itself apart from everyone else thereby creating obstacles between both communities (LGBT and non LGBT).

    If i were to host a pride event for heterosexuals, or simply for men, people would at the very least wonder if i lost my sanity.
    So why is a pride event suddenly a good idea when it's directed at a LGBT community.
    ​​

    I think you need to look up what an 'oppressed minority' is dude. This isn't about erecting walls. The LGBT community are actually taking down these 'walls' that were put up in the first place by religion, homophobes, governments, and prudes. These oppressed minorities take pride in the fact that they are now earning the same basic human rights that white, middle class males all enjoy (the right to marry, adopt, not be harassed in public, job discrimination based simply on their sexuality, not having to deal with parents that would abandon you simply due to your sexuality... the list goes on).

    It baffles me that so man straight people are basically saying 'okay, you have almost the same amount of rights now, pls stop making a fuss about it'. I'm pretty sure if you had less rights than everyone else for thousands of years, you'd want to celebrate finally getting them.

    Also, weren't you the one who kicked up all that fuss about the TRIBBLE Klingons, saying it shouldn't be forced on us (When it wasn't even apparent, I didn't notice it until my second playthrough)? There is clearly some homophobia here, even if it is somewhat passive. If you don't like it, go elsewhere or ignore it. It's not like these people are trying to make you TRIBBLE.

    EDIT: Cannot believe that g*a*y and l*e*s*b*i*a*n is censored....

    EDIT 2: One minute, these are censored, next they aren't?

    Not trying to derail this thread or even get into an argument here, but if you look into history itself, the community hasn't been oppressed for thousands of years, basic human rights are just that, they don't have to use different bathrooms and or aren't considered second class citizens.

    Greeks, Romans and even the latter cultures of ancient Egypt (not to be mistaken for Kemet, people) placed them in the higher echelons of society and was practised freely amongst the elite when slaves were still called slaves.

    I'm not trying to dishearten this at all, I am indifferent because its none of my business who practices what sexuality/gender/etc. Because in the future hopefully we will all look at this and take pride in how far we've come as a people to even have to squabble over such things.
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    EDIT: Cannot believe that g*a*y and l*e*s*b*i*a*n is censored....

    EDIT 2: One minute, these are censored, next they aren't?

    Editing the page once seems to knock out the autocensor, is what I've noticed.
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    jam3s1701jam3s1701 Member Posts: 1,825 Arc User
    edited July 2015
    I've already flagged this thread for worrying about what it would become way before it derailed and became the same old thing :-1:

    I just wish this topic was totally and utterly against tos and within the fct no no it saddens me so much to see this kind of hate regardless of who it's aimed at especially since the op was only trying to do a nice thing.
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    sennahcheribsennahcherib Member Posts: 2,823 Arc User
    edited July 2015
    ......

    ok, "hidden" was maybe not the good word. for me you use your "community" like a shield to protect yourself from the world. i mean, don't let a bunch of as..holes annoy you. the most important thing is your People (nation). nothing is more important than belonging to a people. color, sexuality, sex etc etc are not important. Nobody has the right to ask you what is your sexual preference; because this is a private part of what you are. this is why i don't like these "communities". who care if someone is g.a.y, muslim, l.e.s.b.i.a.n, buddhist etc. if i want to play in a game with someone or join a party, this is because this person is interesting.

    During centuries my people have been treated like TRIBBLE, our culture and our language are almost dead, this is why i don't care about the details, and i like the persons like they are; because united we are strong, divided we are weak (lol, it is Tuvok's speech)

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    midniteshadow7midniteshadow7 Member Posts: 787 Arc User
    This event is just part of a celebration for the LGBT community where they acknowledge gaining rights after violent demonstrations. It is just a time of year they hold their celebrations and this event is not just for the LGBT community.

    As part of their celebration the Stonewall Fleet are putting together events throughout this weekend for all of the STO community no matter what their sexual, religious or political preferences are.

    There is no parading LGBT people like animals - it is quite simply a fun weekend with lots of prizes available to win.

    If you can and want to attend, good luck trying to win some sweet prizes; if not, I hope you enjoy your weekend with whatever activity you choose to do.

    Please remember to keep your posts civil - we do not want to be giving out warnings and deleting posts.

    LLAP, MidNite
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    thisslerthissler Member Posts: 2,055 Arc User
    This event is just part of a celebration for the LGBT community where they acknowledge gaining rights after violent demonstrations. It is just a time of year they hold their celebrations and this event is not just for the LGBT community.

    As part of their celebration the Stonewall Fleet are putting together events throughout this weekend for all of the STO community no matter what their sexual, religious or political preferences are.

    There is no parading LGBT people like animals - it is quite simply a fun weekend with lots of prizes available to win.

    If you can and want to attend, good luck trying to win some sweet prizes; if not, I hope you enjoy your weekend with whatever activity you choose to do.

    Please remember to keep your posts civil - we do not want to be giving out warnings and deleting posts.

    LLAP, MidNite

    So you just FREELY admit that political statements and discussions are just fine by you, regardless of what the forum guidelines are. Good to know. Based on past moderator and manager behavior can we expect some TRIBBLE jokes and perhaps a little poking fun at religious figures? All in good taste mind you. The bias of the moderators on these forums, public twitter accounts, and Facebook is boggling. I guess as long as no ones bashes your favorite little group it's anything goes with you guys. Like who DOESN'T like a little Jesus Joke? Aethro Gaming LOVES them. Just Ask Ray!

    But it's cool.

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    sheldonlcoopersheldonlcooper Member Posts: 4,042 Arc User
    existence is a political statement. little jesus? Mojo preached on plastic jesus if that is close enough. all people of conscience should hear his psalm.
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    oldravenman3025oldravenman3025 Member Posts: 1,892 Arc User
    jam3s1701 wrote: »
    I've already flagged this thread for worrying about what it would become way before it derailed and became the same old thing :-1:

    I just wish this topic was totally and utterly against tos and within the fct no no it saddens me so much to see this kind of hate regardless of who it's aimed at especially since the op was only trying to do a nice thing.



    It should have been posted in the Fleet section of the boards, since it's a Fleet related event.


    The fact it was posted in the troll's nest of GD, means it's nothing but an excuse to start a bait thread.



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    lagomorphiclagomorphic Member Posts: 82 Arc User
    It should have been posted in the Fleet section of the boards, since it's a Fleet related event.

    This isn't fleet recruitment. It's a big public event. People being who they are openly isn't trolling.
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    oldravenman3025oldravenman3025 Member Posts: 1,892 Arc User
    It should have been posted in the Fleet section of the boards, since it's a Fleet related event.

    This isn't fleet recruitment. It's a big public event. People being who they are openly isn't trolling.



    Nice try.


    2/10


    The Fleet Section is more than just for recruiting. People also look for Fleets to join, Sell their Fleets, Post offers to buy, etc. There is no rule that I know of preventing Fleet announcements on those boards.



    It's called the "Fleet Administrative Station" for a reason.


    It doesn't have a damned thing to do with who somebody is. This is the WORST possible place to post such an event, since it's likely to generate yet another shitstorm.
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    lagomorphiclagomorphic Member Posts: 82 Arc User
    They aren't recruiting. They aren't looking for fleets to join. They aren't selling a fleet. They aren't buying a fleet.

    In fact, other than the fact that the people hosting it are in a fleet, this event has nothing to do with fleets at all! If this is a "shitstorm" it has nothing to do with the OP.
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    coupaholiccoupaholic Member Posts: 2,188 Arc User
    There is only one path to true equality. Apathy. The only way that people will ever treat everyone as equals is to stop caring about what makes people different from each other. This will never happen, because it means that people must abandon the idea that being different makes them special. Well..... it makes you special all right... just like everyone else. :p

    Catch 22 really isn't it? We're all individuals and we all like to recognise those characteristics that make us who we are - but at the same time we have a disturbing habit of pigeonholing people according to those characteristics into social groups and stereotypes, which promotes segregation and friction when such groups interact.

    That US vote on marriage is a good example. This news is good, really good! Yet all I saw was people spouting quite horrific anti-religious and homophobic poison. Tolerance indeed.
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    originalspockoriginalspock Member Posts: 809 Arc User
    The irony is the celebration of differences is being wrapped under the guise of equality, and inclusion. Equality has no flag or abbreviation. Inclusion isn't advertising sexual preference of a group. A month back there was a Muhammad art contest that was by all means perfectly legal. However to millions it was extremely offensive. They had their doors open too.

    Just because one can do a thing doesn't mean one should do a thing.

    Humanity will advance when we put aside all our differences and get over our individual levels of pride.
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