Love in PW??

This may sound cold, but love is a physiological reaction that develops psychological bonds between two people over time. If you're confusing a puerile attraction to a collection of 1s and 0s whose banal AIM-speak leaves you swooning, then you're suffering from a severe case of emotional deficiency and should seek help. No, seriously. The real world is so much more vibrant than mechanized, blase interactions between two digital fakes, and since you obviously have no idea what love is it's high time you crawl out from the butt-shaped impression in your computer chair and discover life again.

Until you meet said person in real life you have zero perspective on your attraction towards them beyond a thin, sickly facade created from the same ilk as sappy, boring, cyanide-laced romantic comedies that Hollywood spews out for an easy buck.

It's not romantic, it's sociopathic and perturbing...

Over the years I guess I can say I had found myself to the point where love could have blossomed with another. True affection and deep friendships have developed a couple times. Nothing ever went further than that for me. But I do know many couples who are now happily married who met in these games. So yes I believe it is quite possible.

Unless one is willing to let themselves get involved on a personal level with someone else on an online game it isn't possible.


I'd really suggest not hitting on the girls though...they might turn out to be guys RPing girls.

Lets just put our differences aside and be **** in game b:chuckle


b:victory

XAsch - Sanctuary wrote: »

PWE typo'd the name. It's Pervert World, not Perfect World. Silly PWE.

Pure win. b:laugh

Can you find love over a game or the internet, sure... People say you need help because you bring up the idea or perhaps you have found someone you liked.

Scientist have done studies over and over on the male and female hormones as far as "romance" goes. Females, if you have the light dimmed with candles going, hormones are higher then they are for lights on, or lights off. Males hormones are on the other hand different, were normal. Keep the lights on or off, either way it doesn't matter both are the same. But they will turn the lights down and it will make there lady happy which psychologically makes them happy. Theres so many different factors that play into "romance". So if one person finds embracing a sexy pixel character and getting a kiss from it, which actually is animated well, there hormones for "romance" might go up. Like watching a romantic movie or maybe even a... you get the idea on that one.

Fauxfeng-
The real world is so much more vibrant than mechanized, blase interactions between two digital fakes, and since you obviously have no idea what love is it's high time you crawl out from the butt-shaped impression in your computer chair and discover life again.

What is different between the real world interactions and the computer? Words are the same, specially when using voice conferencing programs such as ventrilo. There is only two major difference's, one, nonverbal communication and two, being able to see the physical features of ones person. Non-verbal communication, yes plays a big part of "romance" but it does not make it everything. If one person speaks to another via computer and falls head over heels for them it means they enjoy there personality, the true inner beauty of that one person, and doesnt fall head over heels for there looks. Its like for example, my best friend in high school she wasn't the sexiest person in the world, not one I would walk up to and try to hook up with. But over the course of time she became the sexiest person in the world to me at the time. It wasn't her physical features that did it, it was her mind.

My fiance now... I met her once in high school, had good conversation with her at one point, but never talked to her more after that. Hell, I moved schools never saw her again. But she knew a friend of mine. I shipped away for the military and my buddy had said look, I got an excellent girl you might like Imma have her write you she even went to the same school as you. Next thing I know I get a letter from her. We start writting eachother back and forth for the 7 months I was gone, I fell for this girl that I have never met other then through a pen and paper, because as far as I could read and my occasional phone conversation with her that last about 10mins every two weeks. She had a great personality. Came home, turned out it was the same girl from high school, now shes my fiance...

So can it be found via internet... Yep...

Are you crazy/need psychological help for it... No...

I'm not sure. But I definitely consider the people of my level in guild as my close friends and the leader and one of the Marshals as my best friends... We've been in a guild with each other for nearly six months, so it's allowed, I suppose.

But I don't know... "The one", "romance", "true love"... I'm not sure. "Dating", perhaps, but it's hard when people are miles and miles away and crazy timezones... But I think you can start to feel affection for the people you talk to daily and maybe even out of game relationships (romantic as well as friendly) have happened before.

It's fun. But I'm not going to think about a white picket fence and sixty children when it comes to guys and girls I may or may not "date" that I met in a game. -shrug-

I ~met someone~ on Livejournal and we were buddies for a few years. Then we met up and really liked each other so we got married. I know it's not gaming but it is the Internet. Now we play PWI together. He's a good guy, I love him, blah blah blah and all that. I think however you meet someone is fine. It's not all that much different from meeting someone in a bar or what have you.

Krel - Heavens Tear wrote: »

Im a person who uses the vegas theory in this game."What happens in PWI stays in PWI"

What could possibly happen... you get drunk off some Osmanthus wine and you suddenly find yourself bankrupt and a label atop your head saying your blah-blah's wife/husband? Hahaha.


But honestly, we shouldn't be putting such a limited definition on love. It's subjective. If people can say they've fallen in love with someone in game, then fine, congrats to you. I don't see the point in trying to illegitimize anyone's love just because it's not physical or what have you.

It can happen yes, even for those who would never expect, like me. I've fallen in love and had a 4 years relationship with a guy I met on a MMORPG. ( yes I'm a female IRL playing a female avit too) Even when it ended, we became best friends for life and if you ask me, it was a very stable relationship, open as when we met personally it was like we had spoken and known a lot of each other before hand. The virtual game was a nice set, as its something we did on our spare times and always very relaxed. Would I do it again? if it happens,I don't see why not.

I've known some people that met and fell in love during a game then in real life...after meeting of course. Was so epic they were a couple for years and are still friends. As for myself, no...don't think so. Such things are not meant for me, so I'll just play the game and hope I at least meet some nice people I can do quests with.

I met my husband in real life on a mmorpg almost 5 years ago now. I was a GM and he was a player. We were friends for about a year then got serious after I got divorced from my first husband.

He lived in England and I live in the USA, he moved over here to be with me, and we have been married for 2 years now and still love each other as much as ever.

We are hoping to have a baby in the next year or 2 as well b:victory

Cat - Heavens Tear wrote: »

I met my husband in real life on a mmorpg almost 5 years ago now. I was a GM and he was a player. We were friends for about a year then got serious after I got divorced from my first husband.

He lived in England and I live in the USA, he moved over here to be with me, and we have been married for 2 years now and still love each other as much as ever.

We are hoping to have a baby in the next year or 2 as well b:victory

b:dirty so sweet i got goose bumps b:surrender

But i only think of one disadvantage wen meating a real nice person in game, its the urge of wanthing to see him and know what alse is there other than crappy pixels... and the problem with this is that sometimes you would take this urge to a higher lvl and make mistakes, cuz of the main reason that wen you meat someone it always has to be over the fking ocean... i think you 2 were lucky, dispise the fact that him to had to go across the ocen to find you, sometimes is not easy!!!
But one thing i'll say meating new people is always fun, not talking just about "love" here just the simple fact of heaving found a good friend an advisor someone you have somthing in comon to, to chat and enjoy... so i say dont be scared of making new friends even if you know it maight me dificult later, just be happy you found him...


i'm happy