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teaface
Member, Neverwinter Beta Users Posts: 1 Arc User
Hello i will be starting tomorrow!! i am looking for a guild to call home!, i will be a very active player i am really excited for nwn but i want a guild that is okay with the fact i am male and i have a Boyfriend!, I Will be Playing a Tiefling CW
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We are on the Mindflayer shard.
No one should have to hide who they are.
If you have a guild where absolutely no discussion occurs about real life then sure, it doesn't need to come up. If your guild is social in any way, then significant others are likely to be brought up. In those cases, everyone should be able to talk about their significant others in appropriate ways without fear of harassment or reprisal.
Our guild uses Mumble. People talk about their days at work sometimes and they talk a little about their significant others. Maybe it's just a quick, "BRB, my boyfriend/wife/girlfriend/husband needs something". Or there are couples that are in the guild together. If someone questions how they know each other, they shouldn't have to pretend that they're "just friends".
Even role play focused guilds it will be an issue if someone has created a relationship for their character.
Anyway, I'm glad that guilds exist where I don't have to worry about being myself.
I'm more worried about him getting flamed, I'd hate to see it.
Might be safer to PM asking about this rather than draw unwanted hate from the ignorant masses.
Yes, people should be less hateful and ignorant though.
Your sexual identity is your own business, and no one should care. If YOU bring it up in a game or something expect some criticism - then shoot back harder. I hate to say it, not everyone is going to be tolerant - you just need a thicker hide when dealing with trolls and people who like to antagonize people who are different than them. Pick your battles, and if you are going to let someone who lives in their mother's basement bother you (more immature players have some disorder where mommy is still governing their life), then you really need to pick enemies better too.
Be you, be proud of who you are and love who you love - just ain't no one's business.
As long as you are not hurting anyone else (who is not a willing participant) or children (willing or not, too easy to control a small mind) you are ok in my book - well, less bestiality, no need for a heavy petting zoo.
One should NOT be, Nor should one WANT TO BE defined by ones sexual preference. It does not define you nor should one allow it to define them.
I am offended by your post.
Most LGBT people prefer the term sexual orientation. Preference implies a choice and most LGBT people do not believe they made a choice to be LGBT any more than straight people made a choice to be straight.
Sexual orientation is one part of a person. I've seen guilds formed around being Christian, speaking certain languages or being a hardcore player. These common interests are all valid reasons for forming a guild, as is forming a guild that is friendly to LGBT(IQA) players.
You get extra attention every day and in virtually every other guild. Maybe you just take it for granted.
2. People will usually assume you are straight so you have the benefit of not having to worry about coming out or being outed.
3. This is a social game. Some people enjoy talking about their lives in addition to talking about the game. A LGBT friendly guild allows people to talk about their lives without fear of judgment or harassment. The world is getting better in that regard, but it's not quite there yet.
4. I fail to see how anyone is seeking extra attention. I am simply seeking a place where I can be myself and a world where I am treated EQUALLY. I want nothing extra.
I certainly don't want to be in a guild of immature/homophobic/bigoted people who deliberately or from ignorance use certain epithets or deragotory terms in chat (especially voice chat) or on guild forums where such words might not be filtered. That's nothing to do with being 'politically correct' either, it's everything to do about being treated equally.
Guildleader of The Lords of Light-http://thelordsoflight.enjin.com/
And most straight people don't really care. Who are you to impose what you believe to be the correct term on him? Let the man speak, for pete's sake. It's not even offensive, or at least not intended to be.
youre entire post clearly shows that you missed my point entirely, so i feel bad for you.
S/he is free to use whatever term s/he wants. I have no power to "impose" my belief upon him/her. I do however have the voice and the will to try to educate people. You and s/he are free to reject and accept whatever you want - just as I am.
Why yes, yes it is. There are places I won't go in real life (even tho I'm a veteran with a concealed carry permit) simply because I know someone is going to try to pick a fight. Same here, I wouldn't join a guild where it's obvious that drama and so on would be the inevitable result. Instead, I chose to join one where I can be open and honest about who I am (doesn't mean that there won't be drama tho). I really love this guild, most are laid back folks that don't go rage quitting if we wipe in a dungeon (even if we wipe several times in a row) and don't all go rolling 'need' on everything that drops. There's been cases where everyone rolled 'pass'. Fo me, this is what a guild should be all about. The fact that there's no 'judgement' issues to worry about is icing on the cake.
Unfortunately, it's not only 14 year olds who call people names.
We have had African-Americans inquire about joining our guild because we have a policy of respect and not allowing offensive language, so there are African-Americans who are looking for safe(r) places.
For me, putting the onus on me (or other LGBT people) to not let bigotry bother us is putting the onus on the oppressed instead of putting the onus on the bigots to change. Put as much energy into calling out bigotry, instead of putting your energy into telling me to let it roll off my back, and I'd be more willing to entertain your claim that a LGBT guild is unnecessary.
Lastly, the game is about having fun. Having to spend my time educating people, reporting people or expending energy to let things roll off my back is not fun. Being part of a guild where I spend less time having to worry about those things is more fun to me. Feel free to join whatever guild it is that enhances your fun in the game.
Sweet. That makes you annoying as hell, though.