I don't think any of the 30 or 40 MMO's I've been at on launch day managed to avoid queues, lag, or both. Don't expect NW to be any different than the rest. I'm a guardian and I knew I wouldn't be getting VIP access when I paid for it. Only the founder one gets the VIP.
The biggest draw of the first nwn game was being able to make your own content. In fact I met many of the gaming buddies I have today playing neverwinter nights, including meeting my now husband in one of the user created worlds (Original Nordock) I'll definitely be playing user content and might even try my own hand at…
I'm an altoholic so I'll end up with everything :) But control wizard will definitely be first. I love blowing stuff up and wizards tend to be good at that!