In-game Relationships

bonbonsmalisia · August 2011

I wanted to ask you guys, about ur thougths about relations in game that get serious as if they were real. What do You think about them? Is it worth it?

Kagizyu - Heavens Tear · August 2011

bonbonsmalisia wrote: »

I wanted to ask you guys, about ur thougths about relations in game that get serious as if they were real. What do You think about them? Is it worth it?

Lol, gonna hook up through a game, or as Abysm might say as if he had it on copy and paste.

eharmony.com

LenieClarke - Heavens Tear · August 2011

it's a video game, not a dating service.

that said, certainly it's possible to get into a relationship with some fellow gamer. people have met up through much weirder methods than that, and made it work too. just don't assume it'll happen, because that's not what the game is for and that's not why anybody bothers to play it.

bonbonsmalisia · August 2011

lol u 2 chill, i asked obout ur opinion on relation that happen in game or online lol not to search for a lover or turn pwi to date game lol

Tremblewith - Heavens Tear · August 2011

LenieClarke - Heavens Tear wrote: »

it's a video game, not a dating service.

that said, certainly it's possible to get into a relationship with some fellow gamer. people have met up through much weirder methods than that, and made it work too. just don't assume it'll happen, because that's not what the game is for and that's not why anybody bothers to play it.

+1

Don't go through the game looking for a relationship, because this isn't a dating service. Play the game, meet new people, get on Skype/Vent, talk it up, etc... If a connection automatically starts from these actions, maybe it will happen (an online relationship). Happens to a lot of people, and real life relationships often form from this.

However, there are so many players under age 18 that run around in the game making "fake relationships" because they are either gold-digging in-game, or trying to fill there empty heart in real life, with a video game lover. Obviously, it's best to not get involved w/ these people. They are the people who tend to ask for your account info, and when your away and they get jealous or upset, they **** your account and take everything, lol.

Lythianaa - Dreamweaver · August 2011

It is possible to start a real life relationship from a game. Watch Second Skin, then you'll know what I'm talking about.

Talihina - Raging Tide · August 2011

I met my real life boyfriend through PWI. Granted he lives 35 hours away, but we've visited and we've been together for 6 months now.

I don't think it's recommended to go on PWI solely to search for a partner, as people can easily lie, but sometimes you just can't help who you fall in love with. b:victory

Pyrostormz - Raging Tide · August 2011

and sometimes, that girl is a guy
just dont take everything at face value

Skippy - Dreamweaver · August 2011

i met my girlfriend in this game,

i knew her for almost 3 years now,

after being married ingame, and spending so much time together, you really get eager to see each other

one thing led to an other, and now we are a RL couple

MoonUsagi - Heavens Tear · August 2011

Everything can happen, love can bloom anywhere. b:laugh

DeathMethod - Harshlands · August 2011

Didn't a discussion come up 2 months ago on an update page... GM asking whos met love through P.W.I. Alot of people have if you read through the whole thing, They took flights out to see each other and things got serious..... Anything can happen b:pleased

Hideori - Lost City · August 2011

well if you are over 40 and looking for "girlfriend" so desperately (cause you're maybe fat or something, so you never had one) that you would take anything in any shape... then that may be option for you. like for this guy:

Sir_Puma - Raging Tide wrote: »

I'm actually one of those rare ones that actually met my girlfriend in game and it DID develop into a real life affair (meeting in person and such). Although we are both adults and clearly know what we are doing (both over 37).

I did see many "fake" relationships though and that, I agree, is sad.

As for the embrace part, well I will confess, we are in that group. We both know it's a game and we are playing virtual toons, but we both agreed on it. She just brough it to me in a simple way "I already don't like beeing embraced and not be able to do nothing else then move camera, so only one I will allow to, is you"

It's also a trust thing, she often has to go afk whitout notice (mom of 6 kids, yup..) and trusts a lot more going afk in my arms, then in someone's that would go drop her into mobs or whatever, or just bring her flying and lose connection etc...

One her kids actually controled her char one day while she was tending another and set her up in Bb, draingin her mp charm for nothing, so now, when she does go afk, doesn't take risks.. It's in my arms, so she knows where she left her char and where it will be when she comes back..When she does for a short afk, I mainly just read world chat and "steal" kisses b:chuckle

Back on the whole topic of skills vs gear though

My view is :

Gear =/= Pro

"Pro" is when someone knows what all his/her skills does, best situations to use them and also knows most of the bad status/debuffs he/she can receive and how to (mostly) counter them.

lol.

but prepare for great shock when you will see her real face. it may be scary.

Lesthar - Heavens Tear · August 2011

First of all, thanks for the topic.

I don't mind hearing about in-game relationships (I don't believe in it though, too many obscure zones to clear up before it can 'love' eventually be real, unless it's just roleplaying). If it's about people that are already together in life and linked in game, it could be seen as romantic, but it's quite a rarity.

The only things that tend to tick me off more than anything are the mushy lines like 'I love you forever, you are my sunshine' and other idiotic things. If the ones uttering this never met... what is the point? Is it sincere or plain words to try to be poetic and romantic? Sorry, I generally don't utter things I don't believe in.
And so the worst to my eyes are those who get perverted in world chat, as in 'cybering'. They don't belong in a MMO (there is not even a glimpse of sexuality in this game, save for some minimalistic in-game fashion for females, embracing, emotes and marriage, among others).

So yes, I don't have a very favorable opinion on relationships in PWI. I am not interested in them, I don't seek them. But everyone is free to do how he/she feels it, as long as it is not offensive.

And finally, when it comes to in-game relationships that could become true in reality, I do guess it can exist, but well, it must be very uncommon and needs to be thoroughly checked... Once again, roleplaying and all can mess things up a BIG deal. b:bye

P.S.: I believe much more about friendship than love when it comes to MMOs. I could keep contact with a handful of people from MMOs and they are truly wonderful people from around the world, of various ages. We talked about everything, sometimes serious, sometimes trivial. So yes, it's not an all-negative opinion of mine, eh?

Solar_one - Sanctuary · August 2011

Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't ....for me i never started to play this game looking for love was'nt even looking for that in a game but it did find me and my partner i met her here on pw we did a few quests here and there but the more we did the more feelings i started to have we even talked about ingame marriage.

By this stage i knew full well i had very deep feelings about her i even took steps back for a while and i did tell her why i had done this , After a while we started playing together again ( not long i think about a week ) we couldnt stay away from each other .

Few months pass and i could not deny my feelings anymore i loved this woman very deeply
and i told her how i felt , and she told me that she herself had feelings for me as well.

We had our good times and bad there was a time we didnt talk for a month at one stage which was very hard on us both.

The day we got back to talking to each other again i think we talk for like 12 hours in that one day and every day after we spent most of our time together talking and playing the game .

After a few weeks we decided to give a REAL Relationship a go , Now i live in Australia and she lived in Holland so there was a lot to work out she needed a passport + visa and packing all her belongings.

On the 15th of April this year i flew half way around the world to Holland and we met face to face for the first time ..... We both arrived back in Australia on the 27th of April and we are getting married late this September .

And to her ...... AnimaBlanc I love you more everyday b:kiss

Lesthar - Heavens Tear · August 2011

To Solar_One:

Congratulations to you, buddy. It's nice to see a true happy end, the rarest and most precious thing that can ever happen in a MMO.

Castgurl - Raging Tide · August 2011

Dude...

I'll be honest, I tried it. Yep, I thought it would be cute and who knows, right?...haha.

And seriously

I'd say don't do it. Some (SOME, okay? You see that word? PURTY ISN'T IT?) people that play this game are probably extremely cool but outside of it, in other words just chatting them up on facebook; they turn into super *** creeps.

It went from the "wizard" being an awesome person to some f'd up, emo, insecured piece of trash that would stalk me non-stop on facebook. Not sure if he still plays but if he does; then wow...

BUT that's just me. Don't flame me if you're in one/thinking of getting into one, I'm just...well I guess 'warning' you.

Lesthar - Heavens Tear · August 2011

From the best scenario (Solar_One) to the worst (Castgurl), I feel this thread is really worth reading and pondering about.

Solar_one - Sanctuary · August 2011

Castgurl - Raging Tide wrote: »

Dude...

I'll be honest, I tried it. Yep, I thought it would be cute and who knows, right?...haha.

And seriously

I'd say don't do it. Some (SOME, okay? You see that word? PURTY ISN'T IT?) people that play this game are probably extremely cool but outside of it, in other words just chatting them up on facebook; they turn into super *** creeps.

It went from the "wizard" being an awesome person to some f'd up, emo, insecured piece of trash that would stalk me non-stop on facebook. Not sure if he still plays but if he does; then wow...

BUT that's just me. Don't flame me if you're in one/thinking of getting into one, I'm just...well I guess 'warning' you.

I for one fully Agree there are people out there like the .. super *** creeps
and yes all should be very well warned this sort of thing that should not be taken lightly real life is NOT a game .

My story has a happy ending but a LOT dont and can end very badly

To Castgurl : Sorry to here yours was NOT so good.

X_trigger_X - Heavens Tear · August 2011

I met someone, been with them for errrr 19 months o.o We plan to meet in real life when money isn't so tight (UK to southern USA kinda costly for me atm b:surrender) and the time is right for real life to allow us. I think it's 100% worth it. But at the same time I know people who are literally scarred because of relationships in game leading to real life in PWI.

While the wonderful can happen, equally the heartbreaking can.

Bunnybites - Harshlands · August 2011

Hideori - Lost City wrote: »

well if you are over 40 and looking for "girlfriend" so desperately (cause you're maybe fat or something, so you never had one) that you would take anything in any shape... then that may be option for you. like for this guy:

lol.

but prepare for great shock when you will see her real face. it may be scary.

Well it is certainly nice to see you are looking for a deep and meaningful relationship with a good person whose morals and beliefs resemble your own. Because of course, if he or she is fat...... you know that means they eat kittens and murder small children right! Here's hoping you find an anorexic girlfriend because we all know they are the best and make for the longest relationships.

Oh wait, I bet your under 17? Because this kind of logic makes my skinny butt quiver! b:laugh

_blood_rain - Sanctuary · August 2011

IMHO it all depends on you, others have met their "loves" on games, but as for me, I find the thought of myself in a real legit relationship over a game kind of silly, but that's kind of my real life stance on the issue as well...so I'd say it is up to you to decide if it is worth it or not.

Ashivas - Dreamweaver · August 2011

I met a girl in one of my previous games, though I don't consider it an "online relationship" because we met in real life once we got to know eachother, she's like an hour form my house lol. But yea... If there's no chance of it happening irl, there's no point...

And in retrospect, I regret ever meeting her >_>

_blood_rain - Sanctuary · August 2011

Ashivas - Dreamweaver wrote: »

I met a girl in one of my previous games, though I don't consider it an "online relationship" because we met in real life once we got to know eachother, she's like an hour form my house lol. But yea... If there's no chance of it happening irl, there's no point...

And in retrospect, I regret ever meeting her >_>

Was she fat?

Bunnybites - Harshlands · August 2011

_blood_rain - Sanctuary wrote: »

Was she fat?

LOL!! b:chuckle

Sarrafeline - Sanctuary · August 2011

Ashivas - Dreamweaver wrote: »

I met a girl in one of my previous games, though I don't consider it an "online relationship" because we met in real life once we got to know eachother, she's like an hour form my house lol. But yea... If there's no chance of it happening irl, there's no point...

And in retrospect, I regret ever meeting her >_>

Adam's apple?

And...

PWI would be a great dating service if they allowed *** couples. b:avoid But no, they're homophobic communists (Wanmei), so that will never happen, even though PWE is located in California. Oh, wait, they banned *** marriage too. >_> Guess it'll never happen anyway.

_blood_rain - Sanctuary · August 2011

Sarrafeline - Sanctuary wrote: »

Adam's apple?

And...

PWI would be a great dating service if they allowed *** couples. b:avoid But no, they're homophobic communists (Wanmei), so that will never happen, even though PWE is located in California. Oh, wait, they banned *** marriage too. >_> Guess it'll never happen anyway.

Wtf does communism have to do with ***/straight relations. And how does *** marriage translate directly to "excellent dating service" especially when we are talking about a game set in Chinese mythology.

And about the fat thing, I asked that because that's actually a big possible Rl relationship breaker in game according to my guy friends, lol, terrible yes I know.

Hideori - Lost City · August 2011

Bunnybites - Harshlands wrote: »

Well it is certainly nice to see you are looking for a deep and meaningful relationship with a good person whose morals and beliefs resemble your own. Because of course, if he or she is fat...... you know that means they eat kittens and murder small children right! Here's hoping you find an anorexic girlfriend because we all know they are the best and make for the longest relationships.

Oh wait, I bet your under 17? Because this kind of logic makes my skinny butt quiver! b:laugh

so you are fat?

And about the fat thing, I asked that because that's actually a big possible Rl relationship breaker in game according to my guy friends, lol, terrible yes I know.

it's not terrible it's natural. you dont want fat boyfrend too. nobody wants.

Vixter - Harshlands · August 2011

i couldnt care less if people hooked up on pwi, met in RL, dated, got married, had babies, etc.

now these days its a very VERY common thing to meet and hook up with another person on the internet. i would say a few years ago it would have been shunned upon, but now with all these dating sites everywhere, even ones for certain religions and of course for those who arent straight, it makes the internet dating world even more possible to find a match, and also a very popular method.

like said previously though, PW isnt intended as a dating service, but it IS an mmo - meaning multi online - people from around the world interacting with other people, therefor, meeting other people and most likely engaging in friendships and further relationships.

i couldnt care less (again) if someone hooked up with another person on PW. and i for one dont think it is a bad thing.

Hideori - Lost City wrote:

it's not terrible it's natural. you dont want fat boyfrend too. nobody wants.

actually ... i wouldnt mind if my man were a little hefty XD nothin wrong with some fat on a guy. and a lot of guys also love curvy women as well. not everyone in this world wants just skinny people.

X_trigger_X - Heavens Tear · August 2011

Vixter - Harshlands wrote: »

actually ... i wouldnt mind if my man were a little hefty XD nothin wrong with some fat on a guy. and a lot of guys also love curvy women as well. not everyone in this world wants just skinny people.

It's sad, when I talk to my American girlfriend, people in the USA, particularly guys, are brought up and educated, and see on tv, what a "good looking" person is meant to look like. It's totally wrong. Swear I'm like the only guy in the world sometimes that hates these size 0 skinny blonde model looking woman, and prefers someone with curves and whatnot b:surrender

Shayd - Raging Tide · August 2011

A lot of people are in relationship irl and pwi, personally i think of marriage packs as a waste of money, some use them just for marriage quest. Others fall for each other, but it's still online relationship. I'm not marrying my char with any other even i feel lonely questing. So that's my opinion, it is just for fun

FierceKichi - Harshlands · August 2011

I saw this topic and got curious and had to read it. I met this guy on a prev game and we started talking a lot. Added each other on msn and had video convos and everything. He was really sweet and we started dating even tho he stays in Canada and I stay in the US. Now 4 years later we are engaged and expecting a child hopefully

I never intended on meeting a guy on a game. When I play i just simply want to be the best at wat I am doing and meeting a guy is the last thing on my mind.

>>>>>>Now I have seen the bad side of people meeting others online...I was friends with this guy on Lost City Server and he was playing a veno pretending to be a girl to get guys to do stuff for him in game....and sadly one guy actually was fallin in love with him....tried to convince this guy that, now my ex friend, was really a guy but he did not want to hear of it and said I was stupid and jealous. So sometimes meeting some1 online can have its rewards and at the same time it can have its serious downsides. Don't play online games to meet some1. That is not what this game or any other online game is for.

In-game Relationships

Comments

Categories