I need help, i took role-playing a little too far...
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Candie - Raging Tide wrote: »It's a GAME , we're playing characters here , none of us is real-life tideborn or untamed . Some of us are humans , and some are even wizards , but most of us are dirty liars by your logic .
b:chuckle Right on the mark there.
My view, should anyone else need it or be interested... Personally I'd own up, irrespective of the character and class played, it is still the same person playing the game, whether or not the perceived gender of that player has changed in the eyes of the other gamers. If they had fun playing the game and generally chatting with you and, effectively joining in with this lark (albeit unknowingly to them) and they want to blow you out for your honesty, more fool them.
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Maybe a little too late to address the OP, maybe not. But here goes anyway.macrophage05 wrote: »I have an issue and dont know what to do with it, the questiion is when i started playing the game i made my char but got bored with it and tryed another class, the male version looked too femenine so i made it female (im a guy, btw)
So i was playing and got a random invite to a faction and accepted it, this was my first MMO and i didnt knew there were a lot of G.I.R.L.'s so i started to roleplay my char in faction chat pretending i was a girl irl and all, i was too embarrased to admit i was really a guy and that i made this super hot char and such, you know. Few days after i was being helped by a faction member that turned to be a GIRL and said it openly without embarrasment and i regret i didnt tell the truth in first place and felt it would be lame to uncover myslef at that point (i was lv 2x or so by that time with like 4 days of gameplay XP)
So i kept role-playing, I even grew this "split personality" and was able to really get into my character, to the point of accepting compliments and flirt with the guys and all. I became more active, kept leveling and this char became my main and i've been playing it for several months now.
The problem is i've made some real friendship bonds with some ppl, we tell each other's problems, make jokes and have fun together, and i really apreciate them and i know they like me too, and although i've been completely sincere in everything (except the being a guy part :P) i feel like i've been lying to them all this time and feel terribly guilty about it and i feel like telling them the truth at this point will really hurt and disappoint them cause i took it so far (i was maid of honor of one of my friends and gonna be also for another one soon :P) and im affraid they will hate me, i cant really explain it but we've grown really close; but i also want them to get to know the real me and be completely sincere. Real life sucks lately and i found a refuge in this game and those ppl
So i dont know what to do: keep up the role play, uncover myself, quit that char and start over again, quit the game without telling the truth, quit after telling the truth or what
Im really confused and im sorry for that boring wall of text and for any mistakes i made (english is not my first language), if you're still reading this please leave a comment or suggestion, they will be apreciated, even if they're from trolls because it will mean i cought their attention
So they think you're a girl... so what? Just stop the flirting altogether as to not lead any guy on into trying to pursue a relationship with you, and just carry on with this RPing thing.
IMO, as long as you're not an a guild that voice/cam chats and stop the flirts, it'll be fine.[SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]0 -
Ballistixz - Heavens Tear wrote: »denial at its finest.
if your not **** then you are pro at making everyone think you are. you even post your texts in color. all these signs equal up to u being ****/wishing u were a girl.
its written all over ur face.
if you dont want ppl to think your ****, then its best that you STOP what you are doing because its just plain wrong and people will hate u for doing it. no one likes a **** that tries to date a man and the man thinks he is a women and once they get in bed he gets pissed to holy hell. you just dont do that kind of ****. tell the truth or just dont do it. if you are truthfull atleast people will RESPECT you, but if u lie about something like that you wont get respect from no one. even your closest friends will raise an eyebrow at you. so just stop it kk?
its one thing to lie, people usually dont give a flying **** if u lie on the internet. but trying to pretend you are a girl when you are really a boy in rl will get u into trouble. infact because of ppl like you we get terms like "lol there are no girls on the internet, only boys" or "G.I.R.L" or "unless you show pics, everyone on the internet is a boy".
in short, you are a sicko and you need to fix your habits NOW. that is what the internet and the real world will deem you as if you continue this lie. infact you mind as well be a 50 year old fat *** living with his mom right now.
just saying... that is the impression i get from you. all of this is the truth, if you dont like the truth then thats tough. atleast i am being truthful unlike you. /zing
LMAO butthurt much?
No one here seems to care that much about the fact i lyed, or at least arent as sensitive as you which makes me think maybe you had an "approach" with one of us roleplayers and learned the truth the "hard" way b:laugh
If u read the original post carefully you will find out i made a fem char because i liked the looks but then was too embarrased to admit that to the point i lyed to keep it up and had to keep lying to mantain it, as they say: if you lie you'll have too keep lying to keep it up, and that was my big mistake
All that hatred in you post makes me believe that maybe you wanted to make a female character too, but didnt have the balls or weren't as certain of your own gender and got scared that you might actualy end up believing your own lie.
Ppl without brains or as closed minded as you dont even deserve a reply.
I dont regret my decition anymore, i like my char, i've allways liked her, i like to make her look sexy with fash (or even with armor) and i like that ppl compliment her cause that means i've made something other ppl appreciate and is pleasant to the eye, if u cant live with it it your problem and i feel pity on you.
If you're judging people because they add color to their fonts... that speaks for itself, i dont even need to insult your inteligence, shame on you
And yes, maybe all my relationships with my friends are a lie, maybe we wouldnt even be friends if they knew, and i dont care because it made me met them and im really happy I know that ppl, and who knows, maybe they're lying too so, who cares? I'll continue to have fun and enjoy the game, with it's flaws and it's lies, maybe you should do the same[SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
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Ballistixz - Heavens Tear wrote: »its written all over ur face.
Soo... does that mean your face has a nice "troll" or "hater" stamp on it? b:chuckle100% F2P player. Started PW: March 2007, Quit PW: March 2011.
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Macrophage_ - Lost City wrote: »I dont regret my decition anymore, i like my char, i've allways liked her, i like to make her look sexy with fash (or even with armor) and i like that ppl compliment her cause that means i've made something other ppl appreciate and is pleasant to the eye, if u cant live with it it your problem and i feel pity on you.
If you're judging people because they add color to their fonts... that speaks for itself, i dont even need to insult your inteligence, shame on youMacrophage_ - Lost City wrote: »And yes, maybe all my relationships with my friends are a lie, maybe we wouldnt even be friends if they knew, and i dont care because it made me met them and im really happy I know that ppl, and who knows, maybe they're lying too so, who cares? I'll continue to have fun and enjoy the game, with it's flaws and it's lies, maybe you should do the same
And yeah, they could be anyone too! You don't care who they are IRL, so it's not a big deal with the reverse. This subject is so taboo, but it really shouldn't be. Gender shouldn't be a big deal at all unless sex comes into play. Friends are friends, and guildmates are guildmates.[SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]0 -
Ballistixz - Heavens Tear wrote: »no one likes a **** that tries to date a man and the man thinks he is a women and once they get in bed he gets pissed to holy hell. you just dont do that kind of ****.
LOL this thread is just the gift that keeps on giving. b:chuckle
Dude, i've been on the dating scene for close to 20 years and let me tell you, this is bull. I've never known anyone to take a tranny home thinking that they were with a girl. It doesn't happen. What i've seen happen is drunks that didn't care much about their date's gender, somehow half expected it wasn't going to come up during sex (!?) and freaked out the second things became all too real. I remember this one time a friend and i were out on a bender and we ended up in something like a **** bar on a very seethy part of Mexico City. I had a blast, even ended up being invited to sit on the table of the top divas in that place. So, i was just having a good time with all the drag queens (they even bought me some drinks, and yes, i danced with them) while my friend was sulking in a corner making the ocassional homophobic remark. Whatever... Long story short when i decide is time for me to leave, this guy wants to stay back and "hang around" a little while longer. Next day he calls and tries to sell me on the whole "i got tricked" story. I mean we were in a freaking **** bar! You'd think you'd realize there's a pretty good chance not everyone wearing a dress was a woman. I mean come on!
I'm secure and confident enough in my own sexuality that if i ever wanted to "experiment" i would have no trouble doing it. The thing is that even if i tried i would not be attracted to anything other than women. You can tell the difference. Even wearing the same perfume they smell different. I mean come on, if you reach out to hold a girl's hand and don't find it odd it's the same size as yours there must be something wrong. And deep down all these people trying to sell you this tale must've known the truth. I mean, i've gone home with a sufficient amount of women (including from **** parties, it's a good thing some hags are hot) that this would've happened to me already if really you couldn't tell the difference. And it always seems to happen to the people that you somewhat suspect to have a strong **** side anyway...
So no, this is all just a lie. It will never actually happen to a straight guy. Never.
Now, online relationships are suposed to be based on long talks aren't they? Wouldn't there be a moment in which the kind of guy that goes for this kind of thing would ask himself if things just don't seem to be a little too perfect? I mean, here's what is suposed to be a hot girl, but she's geeky and understanding, and willing to go on this 8 hour game sessions. And in all your sharing of your "deepest" thoughts and feelings you don't realize that "submission" is not an actual feminine trait? Don't you know any irl women? For crying out loud you should at least know to suspect a "girl" that never goes on vent...
I suspect many people don't really want to find out. They may even marry in game but don't want to know the truth. Because deep down they are well aware of what is it they're doing. Deep down they know they're perfectly fine with having what they know to be homoerotic relations. They just don't want to own up to having a **** side in their life. All this outrage and indignation only point to one thing...0 -
i am a girl who plays a veno, a male cleric and a male sin and apart from everybody elses comments, i have to say this, people assume i am a guy or a girl depending on the char i play, i m always just as i am, friendly or bitchy or stoic or whatever and i dont go around telling ppl my gender, its not a secret either. if it comes out that i am not the gender they assumed, its their fault for stereotyping genders, attributing some behaviours to some genders. thats nothing for me to feel emberrased or guilty about. theres a fine line between being flirty and nice/friendly. again its not your fault if your friendly attitude is recieved as flirty by the assumption of other ppl. i think you should just come out and say that, yeah you re a guy and you didnt intend for everybody to assume you were girl. cuz imho they really shouldnt have, especially with a veno.
and also, i know there were **** loads of threads about this, but what if a guy wants to play mostly solo, be able to tame and lure? if its impossible to have a male veno installed in the game, we as players, shouldnt be shocked to hear a guy playing a veno, or make it into a QQ joke like "yeah all veno s are fat *** guys.." well i m not and even if i was, i would have the right to play a tamer, lurer, solo class etc, whats the fuss about the genders of chars and players.. (the last QQ added because when i play male char and ppl learn i m a girl they ask the same maddening question "then why do you play a male char?" just for the fun of it? isnt that what a game is for? its like asking "why are you wearing a green shirt today? why did you wear a red one yesterday?" its an effin game just like its an effing shirt)0 -
Macrophage_ - Lost City wrote: »
I dont regret my decition anymore, i like my char, i've allways liked her, i like to make her look sexy with fash (or even with armor) and i like that ppl compliment her cause that means i've made something other ppl appreciate and is pleasant to the eye, if u cant live with it it your problem and i feel pity on you.
fyi... people on pwi will hit on rocks if **** were drawn on it.1. If I kill you; do something about it yourself, don't go complaining to my wife.
2. If you have less kill counts then me, don't expect me to take pk advice from you.
3. If you are hiding behind an alt, don't expect me to acknowledge your existence.
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when I play a video game I do not expect anyone to be what they appear to be... just like for instance I would not expect someone playing a barbarian to be some big guy in a furry suit or if I'm playing a FPS I don't expect the players to be military members. It's just a game... people need to understand that. So that being said quit using it as a over glorified chat room and play the game... go PK some people have fun.0
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Well, to honor peace and friendship in our beloved online forums, a gift for Macrophage_ b:pleasedFuturelord - Dreamweaver wrote: »And umm ewwwwwwwww you be emotional about being a guy pretending to be a girl.
(Just tell them your a guy and hope they turn out to be gayb:laugh)
Yea that sounds good, be ****! yay! ****! yay! Hamsta i cant stop! GAAYYY!!!
Just call them Freaky Alien Genotype, geez O_0
@MANray_ LOL! Boy George? b:laugh Perfect choice for this thread! b:thanksMadness?
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Zanryu - Dreamweaver wrote: »I know how the OP feels. I've spent over a year making everyone think I'm a shameless pervert that loves to spam world chat b:surrender
But we love you that way
Don't admit to being a twelve year old girlb:shockedDW would explode...0 -
....... You just g.ay lol0
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You should just tell them.
The person who those people made friends with was still you, even if you roleplayed acting in a different way.
You still talked to them about different things and they liked talking to you.
If they are true friends then they should be able to understand.
I myself am a Girl but I have a Barb.
If anyone actually says to me "Are you a girl" then I will tell them but otherwise, I really do not care what gender people want to think I am.
If you was to be my friend and was to say to me that you was a Guy then the most which you would hear back from me is "Oh, ok"
I really would not care. You would still be the same person who I made friends with after all.
I would not call you being male in real life but female in the game a lie anyway because anyone can be any gender in MMO games and so you never really know what gender the other person is.
So really, to me, it does not matter because a Guy Char in game could be a Girl and the other way around but who really cares?
MMO games are not date services after all so normally people should take what happens in a game with a grain of salt.
It is a fantasty land after all and does not need to obey real life rules or gender laws.
A MMO game is just fun so people should not get so upset if you tell them what your real gender is.
They should know anyway that someone can be either gender unless they have the mind set of "A MAN would NEVER pick a GIRL char because then they would be GAAAAAY LOLOLOLOLOLOL"
To those people I say b:beatenup0 -
Blacheron - Raging Tide wrote: »dumb comment
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isnt this just about necro'd? 3 weeks later and some1 posts a comment b:scorn[SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
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Renza - Raging Tide wrote: »isnt this just about necro'd? 3 weeks later and some1 posts a comment b:scorn
Well,technically,necro on here means over 30days old threads.0 -
I was RPG'ing girl char for something about a year, and believe me i was hoe. Had few bf's/gf's cybering with most of them,
Well i got bored after some time, so what i did? I told friends, and rerol male char, rest think i just quit leaving wet memories ;p
That was for the best cose some people (including few well known LC personas) would feel to much buthurt *cough* literally *cough* b:laugh
After embracing my feminine side, im not feeling to turn *** or even bi, or like changing gender, was nice experiment, make me learn alot about girls (still dont understand a **** outa them)
what i learned:
1. Most of lost city dudes got **** over 10''
2. Most girls are les or at least bi
3. Theres huge population of fraks/pervs on LC
Overall it was fun XD
So whoever feel like experimenting, im strongly encouraging it, its alooot of fun, u learn alot about opposite gender and about urself, in the way which is impossible irl, and if someone get hurt, owell, lesson for future, at the end of the day its MMORPG (Many Men Online Role-Playing Girls) so dont get involved in pixel to much ;p0 -
I've had that told to me by at least 2 people; I was like "whatever". Really doesn't matter to me, it's a game. You could be a cat playing for all I care, whatever floats your boat.
I'd only say it's kinda messed up if you were to like date somebody and tell them you're the other gender.
Otherwise, just explain it and if they like you enough, they'll understand.b:victory0 -
this made me LOL like seriously and i wanna ends should bea movie lol
but no seriously just tell them if they really are your friends they will be like ya ok so how iz it going if not then well **** em move on and fine real friends0 -
just wanted to add i rly like community in this game, tried to move but other r sooooboring0
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hmm lol i think you should tell them. people shouldnt take characters gender too seriously. i had some friends who i was questioning their real gender lol but i didnt bother to ask bcuz were just people :P sometimes i like to switch it up and play on a male character sometimes i tell them im a girl sometimes i dont even bother bcuz im still being myself lol im not pretending to be a guy or anything :P-retired-
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@CuteButEvil - Harshlands (about siggy)
I'm not sure but... was it from that YouTube series "The Guild" (I highly recomend it to everyone, specialy to the OP, will help you take this games a little bit less seriously and laugh at yourself)0 -
oh please
to anyone slamming the OP you owe everything to a trans woman who (arguably) made the first multiplayer game for PCs (Dana Bunten Berry, MULE)
If you're running a Intel chip than part of the architecture was designed by a trans woman (Lynn Conway)
If you have a computer then it was made possible by one Alan Touring, who not only cracked the ENIGMA code, thus helping to win WW2, but laid the foundations for the stored program computer, without whose contributions you just wouldn't be on this forum today. Oh yah....and he was G-A-Y
And yet, some people still get all icky about gender of the people they're squading with.
To the OP, if he's still reading...whatevs....tell if you want, don't if you want to keep role playing. Its not that big of a deal. Be yourself or don't....the innernets are a chaotic place. Embrace it.
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Leni - Raging Tide wrote: »@CuteButEvil - Harshlands (about siggy)
I'm not sure but... was it from that YouTube series "The Guild" (I highly recomend it to everyone, specialy to the OP, will help you take this games a little bit less seriously and laugh at yourself)
Yep, lol. That was Tink. b:laugh
http://www.watchtheguild.com
And Formykka, I wasn't slamming the OP at all, I was only trying to point out it may not be the disaster they think it is. b:cuteb:victory0 -
I'll make a girl character, but that's as far as I go, I'll talk as normal, Just a bit weird acting a girl and flirting with boys. Too creepy for me[SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]0
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I have an issue and dont know what to do with it, the questiion is when i started playing the game i made my char but got bored with it and tryed another class, the male version looked too femenine so i made it female (im a guy, btw)
So i was playing and got a random invite to a faction and accepted it, this was my first MMO and i didnt knew there were a lot of G.I.R.L.'s so i started to roleplay my char in faction chat pretending i was a girl irl and all, i was too embarrased to admit i was really a guy and that i made this super hot char and such, you know. Few days after i was being helped by a faction member that turned to be a GIRL and said it openly without embarrasment and i regret i didnt tell the truth in first place and felt it would be lame to uncover myslef at that point (i was lv 2x or so by that time with like 4 days of gameplay XP)
So i kept role-playing, I even grew this "split personality" and was able to really get into my character, to the point of accepting compliments and flirt with the guys and all. I became more active, kept leveling and this char became my main and i've been playing it for several months now.
The problem is i've made some real friendship bonds with some ppl, we tell each other's problems, make jokes and have fun together, and i really apreciate them and i know they like me too, and although i've been completely sincere in everything (except the being a guy part :P) i feel like i've been lying to them all this time and feel terribly guilty about it and i feel like telling them the truth at this point will really hurt and disappoint them cause i took it so far (i was maid of honor of one of my friends and gonna be also for another one soon :P) and im affraid they will hate me, i cant really explain it but we've grown really close; but i also want them to get to know the real me and be completely sincere. Real life sucks lately and i found a refuge in this game and those ppl
So i dont know what to do: keep up the role play, uncover myself, quit that char and start over again, quit the game without telling the truth, quit after telling the truth or what
Im really confused and im sorry for that boring wall of text and for any mistakes i made (english is not my first language), if you're still reading this please leave a comment or suggestion, they will be apreciated, even if they're from trolls because it will mean i cought their attention
Well in my opinion it depends on how far u took your role-playing role... I never forgave a guy who told me he was a female in my first MMO... We shared alot of personal information. He even went so far as describing having horrible that time of the month Cramps, and me being a girl gave him advice. If you just said you were a girl when u started most players no this game is 80% male players. So don't worry, and Tranny's are always accepted. But if you did some things like the person i mentioned and MORE. I would never tell, cause they might no be able to accept what was discussed with the same sex!!! Some times, it is not better to be totally honest![/COLOR]0 -
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This is so funny. In part because OP is having second thoughts about being honest, and coming out. Hmmm... tell me, in the 9 months you've been roleplaying, do you really think the guys you were talking to/cybering with were real guys? and do you think the girly friends you made were real girls? hehe
Takes two to tango, no? You said it was your first MMO... experience: 9 months. Many of the gamers here have years of experience not only in MMO's but everywhere else on the net, AND in real life. I'll tell you this: experienced gamers can tell by instinct, NOT by deduction, wether they're encountering a real male or female person in game, but they play along, just to see where you're getting at, and have fun seeing you wiggle your way out of scenarios they are setting up for you. Whack-a-mole anyone?
You are pathetic. Not for roleplaying, but for coming here and expose your messed up decisions. Of course you're a loser, as in someone who can't stand by their own decision, as in someone who wanted to try cuddling up to other males without really doing it... that kind of G.A.Y. aspect.
You're so centered on your very fuzzy navel, you don't realize how many people you would hurt by telling the truth. I have a (very hetero) friend who was married (in game) to another player whom he was certain was female for over one year. A few weeks ago, he learns that "she" is a male, and they had a very real relationship, on skype, msn, etc. The voice part was prolly explained/changed somehow, but he never suspected, he had so much trust in that person and really loved her (him).
When he learned the truth, he nearly committed suicide and saved in extremis. He's 16 years old. The other guy (his sweetheart) must have been much older and knew how to manipulate him. He had to quit school, his parents were worried about his mental state (depression), and it's turned ugly. He left the game altogether.
This is one consequence of taking RolePlaying too far. If you think you can come out and tell everyone "Gotcha", you're very stupid. If you think that telling just a few friends the truth, you'll be in for a surprise. Everyone will know. They will v.o.m.i.t on you.
They might not say it, but they will. Best thing is to re-roll and forget about your friends. Because no matter how you try to change your style, male or female, there will always be, to them, that "deja-vu" feeling that will remind them of your **** character.
Why you came here with your problem? 'cause you're stuck, they asking you to use vent, or skype, and you're backpedalling. Like a real "moumoune".
Yes, pathetic.
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this thread made me sad way too big a deal made of this. when i met my hubby in game he had made it to marshal position with everyone just assuming he was a girl. it was only when he took me aside and said uh..im a dude when anyone actualy found out and the reaction was pretty much "meh". This is how the conversation went in a classic example of seizing the moment
(Fac chat) ReD! girl i missed you how you doing!?!
(whisper) hate to break it to you but im a dude
it caused a little drama but in the end everyone forgave him. however if you have married in game as a Girl and have formed real friendships and relationships as a Girl then dude you gonna hurt people. prolly should have thought of that BEFORE it got too far.[SIGPIC][/SIGPIC] <sig by me
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