I need help, i took role-playing a little too far...

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  • Posts: 450 Arc User
    edited September 2010
    b:surrenderI think they eat any type of soup as long as it has no garlic.

    And umm ewwwwwwwww you be emotional about being a guy pretending to be a girl.

    (Just tell them your a guy and hope they turn out to be gayb:laugh)

    Yea that sounds good, be ****! yay! ****! yay! Hamsta i cant stop! GAAYYY!!!b:chuckleb:cry
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  • Posts: 7,261 Arc User
    edited September 2010
    I know how the OP feels. I've spent over a year making everyone think I'm a shameless pervert that loves to spam world chat b:surrender
  • Posts: 690 Arc User
    edited September 2010
    I have an issue and dont know what to do with it, the questiion is when i started playing the game i made my char but got bored with it and tryed another class, the male version looked too femenine so i made it female (im a guy, btw)

    So i was playing and got a random invite to a faction and accepted it, this was my first MMO and i didnt knew there were a lot of G.I.R.L.'s so i started to roleplay my char in faction chat pretending i was a girl irl and all, i was too embarrased to admit i was really a guy and that i made this super hot char and such, you know. Few days after i was being helped by a faction member that turned to be a GIRL and said it openly without embarrasment and i regret i didnt tell the truth in first place and felt it would be lame to uncover myslef at that point (i was lv 2x or so by that time with like 4 days of gameplay XP)

    So i kept role-playing, I even grew this "split personality" and was able to really get into my character, to the point of accepting compliments and flirt with the guys and all. I became more active, kept leveling and this char became my main and i've been playing it for several months now.

    The problem is i've made some real friendship bonds with some ppl, we tell each other's problems, make jokes and have fun together, and i really apreciate them and i know they like me too, and although i've been completely sincere in everything (except the being a guy part :P) i feel like i've been lying to them all this time and feel terribly guilty about it and i feel like telling them the truth at this point will really hurt and disappoint them cause i took it so far (i was maid of honor of one of my friends and gonna be also for another one soon :P) and im affraid they will hate me, i cant really explain it but we've grown really close; but i also want them to get to know the real me and be completely sincere. Real life sucks lately and i found a refuge in this game and those ppl

    So i dont know what to do: keep up the role play, uncover myself, quit that char and start over again, quit the game without telling the truth, quit after telling the truth or what

    Im really confused and im sorry for that boring wall of text and for any mistakes i made (english is not my first language), if you're still reading this please leave a comment or suggestion, they will be apreciated, even if they're from trolls because it will mean i cought their attention :D


    just tell everyone you are ****, cuz thats exactly what you are. and as a result they will understand and forgive u.
  • Posts: 450 Arc User
    edited September 2010
    I know how the OP feels. I've spent over a year making everyone think I'm a shameless pervert that loves to spam world chat b:surrender
    But you are....
    just tell everyone you are ****, cuz thats exactly what you are. and as a result they will understand and forgive u.

    Your too late in saying that buddy, muahahaha....
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  • Posts: 9,091 Arc User
    edited September 2010
    1) Enough with the Comic Sans everyone. I honestly CAN'T take people who use that font seriously. It's like trying to give someone a serious life-lecture wearing a clown suit. Or, it's like telling your kids that abstinence is good in the middle of having sex with your girlfriend while your wife is out of town. It just doesn't work.

    2) You are a guy that has been pretending to be a girl for 9 months. I'm not so worried about how your few friends will react, but think of all the guys you've flirted with over that amount of time. The world chat drama will be epic.

    3) A few months is really carried away. 9 months is a personal problem. It's ok, there are a few people on LC that pretend to be a girl but everyone knows they're a man... nobody really cares, though we do like to make fun of them. A lot. Sometimes.

    4) Be prepared to be trolled a lot. Be prepared to be hated by a few of your friends. Be prepared to be ridiculed. Be prepared for everything to change with most of the people you've known.

    5) I honestly don't think you should listen to most of our advice, cause most of us have never been in this situation and we really don't have many valid points at all.

    6) LOL. You flirted. With guys. For... 9 months. LOL!

    7) Ever catch yourself gazing into another man's eyes for a little longer than you should... or 'accidentally' stare at their lower extremities in a day-dreaminess type way?
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  • Posts: 450 Arc User
    edited September 2010
    1) Enough with the Comic Sans everyone. I honestly CAN'T take people who use that font seriously. It's like trying to give someone a serious life-lecture wearing a clown suit. Or, it's like telling your kids that abstinence is good in the middle of having sex with your girlfriend while your wife is out of town. It just doesn't work.

    2) You are a guy that has been pretending to be a girl for 9 months. I'm not so worried about how your few friends will react, but think of all the guys you've flirted with over that amount of time. The world chat drama will be epic.

    3) A few months is really carried away. 9 months is a personal problem. It's ok, there are a few people on LC that pretend to be a girl but everyone knows they're a man... nobody really cares, though we do like to make fun of them. A lot. Sometimes.

    4) Be prepared to be trolled a lot. Be prepared to be hated by a few of your friends. Be prepared to be ridiculed. Be prepared for everything to change with most of the people you've known.

    5) I honestly don't think you should listen to most of our advice, cause most of us have never been in this situation and we really don't have many valid points at all.

    6) LOL. You flirted. With guys. For... 9 months. LOL!

    7) Ever catch yourself gazing into another man's eyes for a little longer than you should... or 'accidentally' stare at their lower extremities in a day-dreaminess type way?

    b:mischievousIts official, we all think your ****. Good job oh mighty **** person, now tell them your a guy already! aint gonna get no bump bump until they know.b:cute
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  • Posts: 2,311 Arc User
    edited September 2010
    Dude, honestly if this thread doesn't help you gauge the reaction of the PW comunity to this issue, no amount of advice can help you.

    Some comfort music...

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z5dEjaJ6Mrw
  • Posts: 10,466 Arc User
    edited September 2010
    Dude, honestly if this thread doesn't help you gauge the reaction of the PW comunity to this issue, no amount of advice can help you.

    Some comfort music...

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z5dEjaJ6Mrw

    Mayhaps a follow up lol video

    (>.<)'

    Although...humans be so strange.
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    Mayhaps it be because they evolved to be obsessed with food, monies, and sex.
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  • Posts: 7,261 Arc User
    edited September 2010
    Mayhaps a follow up lol video

    (>.<)'

    Although...humans be so strange.
    o.O'
    Mayhaps it be because they evolved to be obsessed with food, monies, and sex.
    x.x'

    Mmmm... Sex.... b:dirty
  • Posts: 2,311 Arc User
    edited September 2010
    Mayhaps a follow up lol video

    (>.<)'

    Although...humans be so strange.
    o.O'
    Mayhaps it be because they evolved to be obsessed with food, monies, and sex.
    x.x'

    LOL, it's still just as funny as the first time you posted it. But come on Hammy, you have to let go of what certain humans have done to your species...

    *evil grin* http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hM3jzlyNIpc&feature=related
  • Posts: 5 Arc User
    edited September 2010
    I have an issue and dont know what to do with it, the questiion is when i started playing the game i made my char but got bored with it and tryed another class, the male version looked too femenine so i made it female (im a guy, btw)

    So i was playing and got a random invite to a faction and accepted it, this was my first MMO and i didnt knew there were a lot of G.I.R.L.'s so i started to roleplay my char in faction chat pretending i was a girl irl and all, i was too embarrased to admit i was really a guy and that i made this super hot char and such, you know. Few days after i was being helped by a faction member that turned to be a GIRL and said it openly without embarrasment and i regret i didnt tell the truth in first place and felt it would be lame to uncover myslef at that point (i was lv 2x or so by that time with like 4 days of gameplay XP)

    So i kept role-playing, I even grew this "split personality" and was able to really get into my character, to the point of accepting compliments and flirt with the guys and all. I became more active, kept leveling and this char became my main and i've been playing it for several months now.

    The problem is i've made some real friendship bonds with some ppl, we tell each other's problems, make jokes and have fun together, and i really apreciate them and i know they like me too, and although i've been completely sincere in everything (except the being a guy part :P) i feel like i've been lying to them all this time and feel terribly guilty about it and i feel like telling them the truth at this point will really hurt and disappoint them cause i took it so far (i was maid of honor of one of my friends and gonna be also for another one soon :P) and im affraid they will hate me, i cant really explain it but we've grown really close; but i also want them to get to know the real me and be completely sincere. Real life sucks lately and i found a refuge in this game and those ppl

    So i dont know what to do: keep up the role play, uncover myself, quit that char and start over again, quit the game without telling the truth, quit after telling the truth or what

    Im really confused and im sorry for that boring wall of text and for any mistakes i made (english is not my first language), if you're still reading this please leave a comment or suggestion, they will be apreciated, even if they're from trolls because it will mean i cought their attention :D

    It worked fine for me... And I was CLOSE the everyone in my guild (This was actually WoW) One of the guys even wanted to... Get closer to me irl... But once I admited it I was like WOOT NOTHING'S AS AWKWARD NAO. I mean he hated me but still, it was fine in the end.
  • Posts: 1,829 Arc User
    edited September 2010
    Hay wanna cyber??!?!?!?!
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  • Posts: 241 Arc User
    edited September 2010
    I stopped reading when I started reading something about gender confusion... My philosophy vent and webcam or everyone is a dude Except no substitutes or false tellings of the boyfriend.... or maybe it is a dude with a boyfriend.... Either way (AWKWARD)b:chuckle
  • Posts: 10 Arc User
    edited September 2010
    O.o 8 pages now... and i was affraid i wont catch ppl's attention :P ok one last post from me

    First of all thanks all for your replies and for taking your time to read, thanks for the support and thank you for actualy try to help, specialy to Michael_Dark: you're right i can see so much drama coming if i reveal myself, i think im gonna say it only to friends i really trust and that i know will keep the secret and just keep on roleplaying with everyone else, of course withouth the intention of hurting anyone, just for the fun of it, because believe me: it IS fun.

    Also i wanna make clear im not ****, not because i care about what you faceless ppl calling me that (who i dont give a **** about) think, but because simply im not and this has been the topic for the last two pages :P. I have a 1-year long, solid realationship with my gf (although it doesnt demonstrate anything this daysb:surrender) who actualy knows this and laughs about it. Maybe "flirt" wasnt the right word; like i said, english is not my 1st language, what i do is something like:


    -Hello beautifulb:dirty
    -Hiya! <3


    or


    -You look sexy on that dressb:dirty
    -Hehe ty!b:cute i like your jacket :)

    or something like that, i dont think that's **** or harmfull in any way.

    OK, that is all. Now i think im gonna make a siggy or something :P
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  • Posts: 10 Arc User
    edited September 2010
    BTW, how do i lock the thread? XD
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    Originaly posted by frankieraye:
    Hey all, the Easy Rider pack sale was actually extended to June 29th; the news post has been updated to reflect this, and we apologize for the mix-up-- that post should have been updated yesterday evening.

    Read as: Shut the F up! last minute zen charges were AWESOME!! :D We want moar!!!! b:shutup
  • Posts: 9,091 Arc User
    edited September 2010
    First of all thanks all for your replies and for taking your time to read, thanks for the support and thank you for actualy try to help, specialy to Michael_Dark: you're right i can see so much drama coming if i reveal myself, i think im gonna say it only to friends i really trust and that i know will keep the secret and just keep on roleplaying with everyone else, of course withouth the intention of hurting anyone, just for the fun of it, because believe me: it IS fun.

    lol... my only real point was that most of us giving you advice or opinions is meaningless. Just do what you want to do and have fun.

    BTW, if you only tell a couple of close friends, the truth will still spread. Might as well just come out if you're going to. That way you'll get it over with and you won't be haunted, then you can laugh, and be laughed at and deal with it however.

    Anyway, good luck. b:victory
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  • Posts: 2,311 Arc User
    edited September 2010
    b:avoid Some of us may have gone a bit overboard with the fun side of this situation. Come on OP, even you have to admit it is funny.

    b:surrender And sorry about the vid Hammy, it may have been inapropiate but it was just too difficult to pass up. And it is hilarious...

    However i do stand by that song being legitimate comfort music.
    b:lipcurl Although maybe i should have posted the original Dave Berry version...
  • Posts: 10 Arc User
    edited September 2010
    lol... my only real point was that most of us giving you advice or opinions is meaningless. Just do what you want to do and have fun.

    Someone has on their signature: "That's why you dont post opinions on forums, most replies are from ppl who missed a hug or two in their childhood" or something like that, i kept that in mind all the time
    b:avoid Some of us may have gone a bit overboard with the fun side of this situation. Come on OP, even you have to admit it is funny.

    Lol, it is. Was just making a point, didnt intend to sound butthurt b:surrender
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    Originaly posted by frankieraye:
    Hey all, the Easy Rider pack sale was actually extended to June 29th; the news post has been updated to reflect this, and we apologize for the mix-up-- that post should have been updated yesterday evening.

    Read as: Shut the F up! last minute zen charges were AWESOME!! :D We want moar!!!! b:shutup
  • Posts: 7,881 Arc User
    edited September 2010
    I don't think you should be in the habit of lying to people (its a bad habit) but really I consider gender, name, age, location, etc to be private information that is your choice to share. I tend to think there is a distinction between being secretive and being deceptive. If you have been actively lying and deceptive you should probably apologize to your friends.
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  • Posts: 12,354 Arc User
    edited September 2010
    One word: Epic

    My thoughts exactly...
    Hay wanna cyber??!?!?!?!

    Nak b:dirty
    I don't think you should be in the habit of lying to people (its a bad habit) but really I consider gender, name, age, location, etc to be private information that is your choice to share. I tend to think there is a distinction between being secretive and being deceptive. If you have been actively lying and deceptive you should probably apologize to your friends.

    100% agree with Asterelle on this one.



    But I did laugh when I read this b:surrenderb:sad
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  • Posts: 9,091 Arc User
    edited September 2010
    Someone has on their signature: "That's why you dont post opinions on forums, most replies are from ppl who missed a hug or two in their childhood" or something like that, i kept that in mind all the time

    No, it's the people that got too many hugs that you have to worry about. Some people are just oversensitive or take things way too seriously.

    I agree with Asterelle as well.

    My veno has a girls name, she's lvl 90, and I let everyone know that I'm a guy if they ask... most people know who it is anyway, so it's not really much of an issue. I do get the random person hitting on me though. Too bad they're not girls wanting some hot veno action. b:chuckle

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  • Posts: 5,787 Arc User
    edited September 2010
    Actually, most people when they meet me think I am a girl and the reasoning they tell me is that I don't shut up when it comes to talking. Does that really make me out to seem like a girl?? Are RL guys less talkative then RL Girls??

    If you get a guy talking about himself he could talk to you for hours as well. From his ancestry to his ambitions to the time he smashed his face through a window because he was SO drunk, etc etc. .

    The difference though is this: a guy will tell you stuff that he thinks is interesting to you; a girl, no such considerations. They're not here to impress, they're here to talk to you about stuff they think you should care about, not necessarily the things you actually want to know about them, and of course, about how they feel. From what someone said to her in some class and how she felt about it, to what clothes she bought last weekend and how she felt about it - that's a conversation with a typical girl..it can also last for hours.
    Elena Costel: I wash my hands of this affair.
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  • Posts: 83 Arc User
    edited September 2010
    You did nothing wrong , OP . You had fun roleplaying , your friends had fun roleplaying with you , that's what games are about - having fun .
  • Posts: 1,801 Arc User
    edited September 2010
    You did nothing wrong , OP . You had fun roleplaying , your friends had fun roleplaying with you , that's what games are about - having fun .

    ^ this

    and you totally should try to cyber with them
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  • Posts: 227 Arc User
    edited September 2010
    My grandpa once said; If you lie once, it will take a thousand lies to cover it up.

    Admit the truth before you're in so deep that no one will believe you when you finally admit it.

    ^ All I gotta say.
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  • Posts: 161 Arc User
    edited September 2010
    b:shocked its my coming out of the closet all over again b:surrender
  • Posts: 690 Arc User
    edited September 2010


    Also i wanna make clear im not ****


    denial at its finest.

    if your not **** then you are pro at making everyone think you are. you even post your texts in color. all these signs equal up to u being ****/wishing u were a girl.

    its written all over ur face.

    if you dont want ppl to think your ****, then its best that you STOP what you are doing because its just plain wrong and people will hate u for doing it. no one likes a **** that tries to date a man and the man thinks he is a women and once they get in bed he gets pissed to holy hell. you just dont do that kind of ****. tell the truth or just dont do it. if you are truthfull atleast people will RESPECT you, but if u lie about something like that you wont get respect from no one. even your closest friends will raise an eyebrow at you. so just stop it kk?

    its one thing to lie, people usually dont give a flying **** if u lie on the internet. but trying to pretend you are a girl when you are really a boy in rl will get u into trouble. infact because of ppl like you we get terms like "lol there are no girls on the internet, only boys" or "G.I.R.L" or "unless you show pics, everyone on the internet is a boy".

    in short, you are a sicko and you need to fix your habits NOW. that is what the internet and the real world will deem you as if you continue this lie. infact you mind as well be a 50 year old fat *** living with his mom right now.

    just saying... that is the impression i get from you. all of this is the truth, if you dont like the truth then thats tough. atleast i am being truthful unlike you. /zing
  • Posts: 163 Arc User
    edited September 2010

    Im really confused and im sorry for that boring wall of text and for any mistakes i made (english is not my first language), if you're still reading this please leave a comment or suggestion, they will be apreciated, even if they're from trolls because it will mean i cought their attention :D

    As you can see my main is a Veno, and of course, IRL i ain't wearin' skirts.

    So, I made the Veno with the angriest expression I could put on it. (basically a reflection of my IRL personalitywhy so serious >:| anyway ). Any time another player expressed interest in the toon that made me think THEY thought I was a female I made it clear that I wasn't.

    Had there been an option for male Veno this part would not be an issue.

    Very few people seemed angry that I told them that I was a male when they approached me as a female and then found out I wasn't.
    Most people just accepted that the Devs are the people who made Venos female and didn't blame me for that fact.

    So, if that's all the answer you're looking for you can stop reading now.

    Start Rant:
    Why choose Veno when it's female only and I am a guy IRL?

    It's the optimum solo class, you can play almost ALL the content of the game alone which really appeals to me.

    If you want to join in on the remainder of content that is completely group oriented and you're really a solo player it gets tougher to stay in the game.
    Compound that with trying to play 'for free' at your own pace.
    Tough doesn't even begin to describe what you run into.

    Let's face it, nothing is ever free, you pay with time, effort, sweat, blood, rage, tears, money, sanity... something(s). Just remember you always pay.

    I think what it comes down to is this... How far do you care to 'go' in the game?

    For me the answer is, as far as I can the way I enjoy playing.
    I LIKE it me against the world (for the most part), I LIKE it that I have to work harder than the people who cash-shop or AFK-merchant their gear.
    People have always told me that I make things harder than they have to be.
    Hey, I like a challenge... OK?

    That doesn't mean I've lost my innate sense of equitability (fairness) that tells me when
    the challenge I am facing is being increased and the reward isn't. (not blaming Devs or cash-shoppers or merchants either, just saying that maybe they need a lil self-analysis as well?)

    When I log in I like to PLAY the game not WORK the game.

    I like the lure of end-game content, I like the lure of TW, I like the lure of the leet gear.
    I'm just not in any hurry to get to 'the end' of the game.
    I still want to complete all of the game, which means that eventually I will have to find/make the friends/faction who like to play the game as close to the way I like to play it as possible.
    I am currently in a faction but like the others I joined I feel I'm not playing the way they like to play.
    Maybe there just aren't enough people that like/want to do things the same way I do.

    The drawback:
    Maybe I won't get to play all the content of the game before the server shuts down.
    Oh well, 'Tough titty' said the kitty (before it got put out into the garden?)
    I will have had fun regardless and like I said before... you always pay.

    One last thing: If I had to bet on it (which I think we all do) I am betting that there will ALWAYS be another server with another opportunity to start at the bottom and try to work your way to the top before server shut-down. It may not be the 'Perfect World' game but it will be something.
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    End Rant
    Of course, I could be wrong.
  • Posts: 119 Arc User
    edited September 2010
    Put on a wig . Meet up with your male in game friends. Get them so drunk they dont know there left from there right hand. Let them take you it in turns.

    You may not be able to sit down for a month but they will spread it around your were a fantastic lay and then everyone will naturaly think your a girl b:chuckle

    Seriously though who the hell cares who is what gender or what they look like ? thats more shallow than roleplaying your char.

    People must have sad lives if they need to find real friendship in a game .

    Log on play log off get back to your real life and if it sucks as so bad you should be trying to fix that, not play a fantasy game hoping it will become your real life and your real life will become a fantasy.
  • Posts: 83 Arc User
    edited September 2010

    if u lie on the internet. but trying to pretend you are a girl when you are really a boy in rl will get u into trouble. /zing

    It's a GAME , we're playing characters here , none of us is real-life tideborn or untamed . Some of us are humans , and some are even wizards , but most of us are dirty liars by your logic .

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