This is going to sound a little weird....

Nyuchama - Archosaur

I do apologise for this and I just don't know what to do or who to ask... I fail with social skills in real life...

So, you see, I am very uncomfortable with other characters CONSTANTLY stalking my character.

I am the Director of my friend's faction, and you see, a lot of people try to follow me to get in. I just pretend to be away from the computer because I don't know what to do. We are full and I just don't have the heart or the bravery to tell them "no" My friend doesn't know what to do about this either so he told me to just pretend to be away.

And then there is the guys asking my chara to "go out with them" I do not want to go out with anyone, so again, The first thing I do is pretend to be away. I don't like people asking CONSTANTLY to embrace my character after about 5 tries where I always said no (But I was acting like the notice expired and I was AFK) My friend has also advised me to pretend to be away in a situation like this.

Evict - Heavens Tear

You're going to have to learn to say no to people eventually; if not in RL, then at least on the interwebs. Also, you should edit the last bit of your post out. There are some sick freaks on this game, just sayin'.

Asura_Shiva - Raging Tide

Hmm tell them the truth. As for embracing, they prolly want Chi. If they are making you feel uncomfortable, then ignore them/blacklist them. Due to there isn't much you can do. Typically I keep in faction or squad chat so pm-ing is the only other option to contact me. xD

jiq

Don't be scared to say no. Guys are really stupid when they force embracing. It's even worse when they spam duel invites. :P If they harass you, feel free to block and report them. And going out in a game is the most ridiculous thing ever. Tell them to get a life.

I used to be a shy, lonely soloer in MMOs, I ran away or logged out when I got party invites, but PWI has changed me! Now I like to chat, to make friends, and I'm not afraid to tell my honest opinion if someone is annoying the hell out of me. xD I realized there's nothing to be worried about.

Samriss - Heavens Tear

Your concern isn't weird at all, but you can certainly handle it better. Like others before me have said, you have GOT to tell them no! They won't learn otherwise. It's all about reinforcement. If they pester you and you do nothing, they will continue to pester you. If you tell them "no" they should back off.

Be polite, but if they keep bothering you and making you uncomfortable then you need to take it up a notch. If you hurt their feelings, well boohoo for them. They should have left you alone.

About them wanting to get into your full faction: just tell them that you're full and can't take them. If it makes you feel better tell them you'll keep them in mind for when a spot opens (but don't actually invite them. If they're STALKING you, that's trouble).

Nyuchama - Archosaur

Thank you everyone for the replies so far!

I just have examples of what I mean by 'stalking':

I don't know why or what they want, but the 'stalkers' follow my friend and I. Like once we were walking to a spot where we could talk, and there was this girl CONSTANTLY following us. I don't know if she thought it made her look "important" or if she wanted to ask to join the faction, or if she just wanted help, because she would NOT say anything. My friend got very annoyed and asked her to leave. She didn't listen, she just kept following us. Same thing happened with a few male characters. They kept stalking us going "I WANNA EMBRACE YOU1111111" and it got really annoying. They kept crying because we pressed the 'no' button. Like usual, I didn't know what to do and my friend had to come in and help like usual.

Then THE ONE TIME I returned to Broken Bridge Village (To complete a quest I should of completed 10 levels ago) This guy stalked me and was rapid sending embrace requests, which really got on my nerves. He whispered to my friend saying his name and asking her if she wanted to go out, but she just messed with him saying stuff like "I have a husband~" Should I do the same or what?

Then there was this other girl who somehow managed to follow me all the way to Achrosaur... I don't know HOW she did it considering she was below level 5 (in default gear), but she did it. I guess because I mainly travelled by water?

Answers are greatly appreciated!

jiq

lol, I think you should just block and ignore them. ^^ So many sick people out there... If they continue to harass you, or maybe send you deathwishes from an other character (happened to me before LOL), don't hesitate to screenshot it and report them as soon as possible.

Flickerfae - Sanctuary

This is the thing about the internet... a lot of people decide to act like jerks and weirdos (in your case, stalkers) just because they don't have an actual face in-game. They grief and spam embraces in PW, then turn off the game and no one in their real life holds them accountable.

I was once super shy in MMOs too, but I learned to use this anonymity to help bolster my confidence. Who cares if someone thinks me rude; they were being rude first, and it's not like anyone I know in rl is ever going to find out about it. This sort of thinking keeps me from being eager to please everyone, even the jerks.

Bottom line: you don't have to take that. Being a nice person does not mean being a doormat. If they're following you for faction invites, just tell them you're full. That's not going to hurt their feelings, especially if it's true! Same for embracers: if you don't want a guy to pick you up, just tell them you're busy, or that you don't like being embraced by strangers and weirdos (although that's admittedly a little harsh b:chuckle ). Communicate... tell them what you want or don't want. Most of the time, they'll leave after seeing it typed confidently enough. You have a right to have fun in the game; defend it!

If they don't leave after that, tell them you count this as harassment, and that you'll send a screenie to the GMs. Then, if they still bother you, do exactly that. You did warn them after all. And chances are, if they do this to you, they do this to other people; complaining about griefers is better for the health of server as a whole.


If you're shy, MMOs are a perfect place to come out of your shell. You're there to play the game, and it's your right to turn away anyone who would infringe on your fun. Be strong, be confident, and just say no to thugs.