The talk between me, hort, Piwright and Frans shook me last night. I mean, really shook me. I know I'm autistic and hopelessly shy, but that shouldn't stop me.
But it doesn't. I mean, sure, my life feels dull at times, and yes, I do feel lonely, but there's literally no-one who'd even bat an eyelid in my direction regarding dating. I mean, why would a girl date a 20 year old IT engineer who plays with model trains, Warhammer, and on STO and an xbox and does very little apart from that?
I mean, I do stop to smell the roses and flowers. Yes, I'm in fairly good health, and I literally do stop and smell flowers (the Stratford Road is so lovely this time of year with the trees full of pink blossom), and I've got a job, but in the end, do my feelings really matter?
Ahh, who am I kidding. I'll be a loner forever and keep misery and lonliness company.
The talk between me, hort, Piwright and Frans shook me last night. I mean, really shook me. I know I'm autistic and hopelessly shy, but that shouldn't stop me.
But it doesn't. I mean, sure, my life feels dull at times, and yes, I do feel lonely, but there's literally no-one who'd even bat an eyelid in my direction regarding dating. I mean, why would a girl date a 20 year old IT engineer who plays with model trains, Warhammer, and on STO and an xbox and does very little apart from that?
I mean, I do stop to smell the roses and flowers. Yes, I'm in fairly good health, and I literally do stop and smell flowers (the Stratford Road is so lovely this time of year with the trees full of pink blossom), and I've got a job, but in the end, do my feeling really matter?
Ahh, who am I kidding. I'll be a loner forever and keep misery and lonliness company.
Hey, I've been in your situation before. It took me awhile, but a friend offered the best possible advice: you have to be completely comfortable with yourself before you can expect someone to be comfortable with you. The irony of the situation is that, once you reach a position where you're perfectly fine with whatever life throws at you, once you've accepted the loneliness, learned to shrug it off, just said 'TRIBBLE it' and moved on with your life, it will no longer matter to you whether you've found someone or not.
Basically, for someone else to love you, you have to love yourself... But once you love yourself, you're fine with yourself, your faults, and yes, you're fine with being alone. Nobody's perfect, and chasing perfection will just drive you insane. Enjoy yourself for your good points and your bad, enjoy life just for the sheer joy of living, and there's no telling what will happen.
The talk between me, hort, Piwright and Frans shook me last night. I mean, really shook me. I know I'm autistic and hopelessly shy, but that shouldn't stop me.
But it doesn't. I mean, sure, my life feels dull at times, and yes, I do feel lonely, but there's literally no-one who'd even bat an eyelid in my direction regarding dating. I mean, why would a girl date a 20 year old IT engineer who plays with model trains, Warhammer, and on STO and an xbox and does very little apart from that?
I mean, I do stop to smell the roses and flowers. Yes, I'm in fairly good health, and I literally do stop and smell flowers (the Stratford Road is so lovely this time of year with the trees full of pink blossom), and I've got a job, but in the end, do my feelings really matter?
Ahh, who am I kidding. I'll be a loner forever and keep misery and lonliness company.
Hey, I've been in your situation before. It took me awhile, but a friend offered the best possible advice: you have to be completely comfortable with yourself before you can expect someone to be comfortable with you. The irony of the situation is that, once you reach a position where you're perfectly fine with whatever life throws at you, once you've accepted the loneliness, learned to shrug it off, just said 'TRIBBLE it' and moved on with your life, it will no longer matter to you whether you've found someone or not.
Basically, for someone else to love you, you have to love yourself... But once you love yourself, you're fine with yourself, your faults, and yes, you're fine with being alone. Nobody's perfect, and chasing perfection will just drive you insane. Enjoy yourself for your good points and your bad, enjoy life just for the sheer joy of living, and there's no telling what will happen.
This is a topic that has no easy simple answers. I'm certainly no expert, but I do have opinions.
I agree with the loving yourself part. Even with a wife and son I have trouble with that daily. As much as a girlfriend/lover/wife can enrich your life, it can also make it much more complicated. When you fail at something, it affects not only you, but everyone else at home. If I'm having a bad day my wife and child suffer whether I'm quiet or loud about it. If they're having a bad day I have to put up with it.
I love my wife and son and want them with me the rest of my days. Yet there truly are moments when I want to run screaming from the house and never return. Sometimes I look at single people with envy and wish that I could be a bachelor so that my time would be my own, and there'd be no one elses interests to consider.
Selfish I know.
Even the excitement one feels at the possibility of love is something I miss too. I could be a scumbag and cheat but I don't. Yet I'll see a woman sometimes and loves songs will play in my head and my imagination will try to run off in directions that ultimately lead to shame.
Truth is, the grass is always greener on the other side, and I think when it comes to life the only thing anyone can do is make the best of what they've got.
As for the thought that you'll be alone the rest of your life, I do think self fullfilling prophecies are truly self fullfilling. I don't know you great, but from what I can tell you've got a big heart and a creative mind. I do believe love is possible for you and since your 20 you've got many years left to find it. Love is the ulitmate lottery, and NO ONE knows the odds. Don't sell yourself short. Also, relationships seem to have a pretty good failure rate, and if there's one thing worse then being single its breaking up.
I also want to add that I like your posts and I'm jealous of your trains. I had a trainset growing up. If we had room and the extra income needed I'd build one myself, pretending it was for my son. Enjoy your freedom and feel free to lord it over me anytime you want.
Hey, I've been in your situation before. It took me awhile, but a friend offered the best possible advice: you have to be completely comfortable with yourself before you can expect someone to be comfortable with you. The irony of the situation is that, once you reach a position where you're perfectly fine with whatever life throws at you, once you've accepted the loneliness, learned to shrug it off, just said 'TRIBBLE it' and moved on with your life, it will no longer matter to you whether you've found someone or not.
Basically, for someone else to love you, you have to love yourself... But once you love yourself, you're fine with yourself, your faults, and yes, you're fine with being alone. Nobody's perfect, and chasing perfection will just drive you insane. Enjoy yourself for your good points and your bad, enjoy life just for the sheer joy of living, and there's no telling what will happen.
That really is very good advice and advice I have given before. If you keep this up Daevan, people are going to mistake you for someone who isn't trying to stroke their own ego on a regular basis. :P
I'm depressed... A certain STO related person has been kinda ruining the good humored social aspects of the forums lately and it makes me not want to visit anymore..
I'm depressed... A certain STO related person has been kinda ruining the good humored social aspects of the forums lately and it makes me not want to visit anymore..
I'm depressed... A certain STO related person has been kinda ruining the good humored social aspects of the forums lately and it makes me not want to visit anymore..
It's okay, not you.. I can't name the person, obviously.. it's against forum rules.. but yeah I feel a bit... bothered.. by someone who recently started to visit ten forward...
It's okay, not you.. I can't name the person, obviously.. it's against forum rules.. but yeah I feel a bit... bothered.. by someone who recently started to visit ten forward...
It's okay, not you.. I can't name the person, obviously.. it's against forum rules.. but yeah I feel a bit... bothered.. by someone who recently started to visit ten forward...
Well then. *Pulls out a gun*
Just /tell me who.
Or, the less violent solution that works for me is to skip over offending text. Would it help if I put this clown hat on and beat myself in the face with a bowl of oatmeal. Cause I was gonna do that anyway if you want to watch.
It's okay, not you.. I can't name the person, obviously.. it's against forum rules.. but yeah I feel a bit... bothered.. by someone who recently started to visit ten forward...
just use the ignore function and they disappear forever...... no wait that's murder. i get those two mixed up sometimes, but ignore will help.
dont let one person put you off. we all would miss your unhealthy obsession with tholians and double entendres.
unless that person is me, but im pretty sure ive not done anything bad recently. unless you dislike the facepalm, in that case damn you.
Whats wrong? People don't answer their private messages. Horrible. No cookies for the non pm answer people. Raven, Corban, Brushy, Dawson, Archie get nom noms.
Whats wrong? People don't answer their private messages. Horrible. No cookies for the non pm answer people. Raven, Corban, Brushy, Dawson, Archie get nom noms.
Whats wrong? People don't answer their private messages. Horrible. No cookies for the non pm answer people. Raven, Corban, Brushy, Dawson, Archie get nom noms.
*Reads closely*
"Raven, Corban, Brushy, Dawson, Archie get nom noms."
I fail to see where I do not get nom noms here. Is there another Corban I don't know about? Its not this Corban Dallas character I keep getting confused with is it?
Whats wrong? People don't answer their private messages. Horrible. No cookies for the non pm answer people. Raven, Corban, Brushy, Dawson, Archie get nom noms.
Eh... Since I'm rather good in the kitchen and already baked a cake today I can answer the PMs whenever I feel like it.
That really is very good advice and advice I have given before. If you keep this up Daevan, people are going to mistake you for someone who isn't trying to stroke their own ego on a regular basis. :P
I'm depressed... A certain STO related person has been kinda ruining the good humored social aspects of the forums lately and it makes me not want to visit anymore..
Hey, the ratio of insanity:seriousness is still hovering around 500:1. It's all good. Some seriousness isn't bad, especially since it makes people appreciate the madness.
Whats wrong? People don't answer their private messages. Horrible. No cookies for the non pm answer people. Raven, Corban, Brushy, Dawson, Archie get nom noms.
Whats wrong? People don't answer their private messages. Horrible. No cookies for the non pm answer people. Raven, Corban, Brushy, Dawson, Archie get nom noms.
I answer my pm's.... I just never get any.
-skulks away and cries in a corner-
Whats wrong? People don't answer their private messages. Horrible. No cookies for the non pm answer people. Raven, Corban, Brushy, Dawson, Archie get nom noms.
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*checks the room*
The talk between me, hort, Piwright and Frans shook me last night. I mean, really shook me. I know I'm autistic and hopelessly shy, but that shouldn't stop me.
But it doesn't. I mean, sure, my life feels dull at times, and yes, I do feel lonely, but there's literally no-one who'd even bat an eyelid in my direction regarding dating. I mean, why would a girl date a 20 year old IT engineer who plays with model trains, Warhammer, and on STO and an xbox and does very little apart from that?
I mean, I do stop to smell the roses and flowers. Yes, I'm in fairly good health, and I literally do stop and smell flowers (the Stratford Road is so lovely this time of year with the trees full of pink blossom), and I've got a job, but in the end, do my feelings really matter?
Ahh, who am I kidding. I'll be a loner forever and keep misery and lonliness company.
Hey, I've been in your situation before. It took me awhile, but a friend offered the best possible advice: you have to be completely comfortable with yourself before you can expect someone to be comfortable with you. The irony of the situation is that, once you reach a position where you're perfectly fine with whatever life throws at you, once you've accepted the loneliness, learned to shrug it off, just said 'TRIBBLE it' and moved on with your life, it will no longer matter to you whether you've found someone or not.
Basically, for someone else to love you, you have to love yourself... But once you love yourself, you're fine with yourself, your faults, and yes, you're fine with being alone. Nobody's perfect, and chasing perfection will just drive you insane. Enjoy yourself for your good points and your bad, enjoy life just for the sheer joy of living, and there's no telling what will happen.
I hurt....
Tried to recycle myself this morning.
My body rebelled against becoming soylent green...
Ouch....
*Slaps himself serious.*
This is a topic that has no easy simple answers. I'm certainly no expert, but I do have opinions.
I agree with the loving yourself part. Even with a wife and son I have trouble with that daily. As much as a girlfriend/lover/wife can enrich your life, it can also make it much more complicated. When you fail at something, it affects not only you, but everyone else at home. If I'm having a bad day my wife and child suffer whether I'm quiet or loud about it. If they're having a bad day I have to put up with it.
I love my wife and son and want them with me the rest of my days. Yet there truly are moments when I want to run screaming from the house and never return. Sometimes I look at single people with envy and wish that I could be a bachelor so that my time would be my own, and there'd be no one elses interests to consider.
Selfish I know.
Even the excitement one feels at the possibility of love is something I miss too. I could be a scumbag and cheat but I don't. Yet I'll see a woman sometimes and loves songs will play in my head and my imagination will try to run off in directions that ultimately lead to shame.
Truth is, the grass is always greener on the other side, and I think when it comes to life the only thing anyone can do is make the best of what they've got.
As for the thought that you'll be alone the rest of your life, I do think self fullfilling prophecies are truly self fullfilling. I don't know you great, but from what I can tell you've got a big heart and a creative mind. I do believe love is possible for you and since your 20 you've got many years left to find it. Love is the ulitmate lottery, and NO ONE knows the odds. Don't sell yourself short. Also, relationships seem to have a pretty good failure rate, and if there's one thing worse then being single its breaking up.
I also want to add that I like your posts and I'm jealous of your trains. I had a trainset growing up. If we had room and the extra income needed I'd build one myself, pretending it was for my son. Enjoy your freedom and feel free to lord it over me anytime you want.
That really is very good advice and advice I have given before. If you keep this up Daevan, people are going to mistake you for someone who isn't trying to stroke their own ego on a regular basis. :P
Sorry.
I think?
I gag whenever I walk into my fancy livingroom and see the couches my bf bought.
The problem is the gag echo since the room is *censor* huge.
Dear Mr. Lewis. How can I make my gags stop echoing?
Me? If so, sorry!
I know what you mean, Corbin. Things like that set off my self-concious paranoia.
I apologize as well, lilravegirl, for whatever I did.
It's okay, not you.. I can't name the person, obviously.. it's against forum rules.. but yeah I feel a bit... bothered.. by someone who recently started to visit ten forward...
*Leans back in a rediculously huge, *censor* compensating chair and strokes his beard thoughfully.*
Soundproofing foam. Its ugly as sin but guarnteed to muffle echos.
That or you move.
I had a third suggestion regarding gag reflexes but forum rules would probably conflict. Not to mention the bad taste it would be in.
Now my assistant should have your bill.
Sorry....
*wanders off to a corner*
Well then. *Pulls out a gun*
Just /tell me who.
Or, the less violent solution that works for me is to skip over offending text. Would it help if I put this clown hat on and beat myself in the face with a bowl of oatmeal. Cause I was gonna do that anyway if you want to watch.
just use the ignore function and they disappear forever...... no wait that's murder. i get those two mixed up sometimes, but ignore will help.
dont let one person put you off. we all would miss your unhealthy obsession with tholians and double entendres.
unless that person is me, but im pretty sure ive not done anything bad recently. unless you dislike the facepalm, in that case damn you.
*Applauds*
What he said.
*Holds up gun*
Offer still stands by the way.
*Runs in circles*
Oh boy oh boy oh boy!
What kind of nom noms?
You don't get any cookies as you just proved you can't read. Who were you paying to answer you emails?
*Record skipping sound*
What?
*Reads closely*
"Raven, Corban, Brushy, Dawson, Archie get nom noms."
I fail to see where I do not get nom noms here. Is there another Corban I don't know about? Its not this Corban Dallas character I keep getting confused with is it?
I like to call it self-imposed noms.
Ack! My obfuscating stupidity is fading! Nooooo!
Hey, the ratio of insanity:seriousness is still hovering around 500:1. It's all good. Some seriousness isn't bad, especially since it makes people appreciate the madness.
Woo, noms!
*Pulls Daevan close*
Careful my friend. Don't take anything at face value round here today.
<.<
>.>
*Dashes off.*
No more sugar and caffine for Corban today!
I answer my pm's.... I just never get any.
-skulks away and cries in a corner-
Awww. I'd send you one, but I don't imagine I'm your target market.