Don't know how to make friends.

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  • Annalyse - Heavens Tear
    Annalyse - Heavens Tear Posts: 2,618 Arc User
    edited November 2013
    Unfortunately I'm not on the Sanctuary server. But I hear where you are coming from, and if you have an alt on Heaven's Tear or make one, I'd be happy to hang out and chat. :)

    To the people saying get a real life - do you ever stop to consider that some people have difficulty with social interactions, even medical issues? I myself suffer from Social Anxiety Disorder and while I don't spend my life hiding behind the computer screen, I can say it is a hell of a lot easier for me to talk to people that way. So what is better, having very few if any friends and living a miserable lonely existance, or having people at least to talk to online? Just because they aren't in the same country or city doesn't mean they can't become friends.
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  • WannaBM - Archosaur
    WannaBM - Archosaur Posts: 1,984 Arc User
    edited November 2013
    I play PWI together with a real life friend i have known a decade or 2 before i started playing PWI. If it werent for him, i would have already moved on to another game.

    On the topic of real life vs online life and real friends vs not so real ones: I understand what you say poster above me, but that is a dangerous aproach. I too am not the most sociable person on earth and social interaction often costs me energy rather than giving me energy, but thats a always been a reason to keep challenging myself in that area. If you dont do that and try to use internet as an alternative, it is more likely to get worse rather than better. And no, in 2 decades of intensive internet use and getting very, very immerged into some communities, i have not met anyone i'd consider a friend nearly as close as real life friends. It is different. A weak substitute.
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  • Desdi - Sanctuary
    Desdi - Sanctuary Posts: 8,680 Arc User
    edited November 2013
    Annalyse - Heavens Tear wrote: »

    To the people saying get a real life - do you ever stop to consider that some people have difficulty with social interactions, even medical issues? I myself suffer from Social Anxiety Disorder and while I don't spend my life hiding behind the computer screen, I can say it is a hell of a lot easier for me to talk to people that way. So what is better, having very few if any friends and living a miserable lonely existance, or having people at least to talk to online? Just because they aren't in the same country or city doesn't mean they can't become friends.

    I have the exact same problem, Social Anxiety, and sometimes chatting with online friends is more relaxing than being with them in real life. Aside from my best friend who's like a sister to me, even my other close real life friends sometimes stress me out.
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  • SinfulLia - Archosaur
    SinfulLia - Archosaur Posts: 164 Arc User
    edited November 2013
    Jojoushi - Sanctuary wrote: »
    Wow someone that thinks along the same lines as I do? b:shocked Scary stuff.

    With my career, girlfriend and constant gym workouts, I don't have time for virtual friends. The ones I do have however, have been very good to me in game...but that's probably as far as it'll ever go with me. I'm social when I need to be in game (which is very rare).



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  • Vennesetiid - Sanctuary
    Vennesetiid - Sanctuary Posts: 98 Arc User
    edited November 2013
    Annalyse - Heavens Tear wrote: »
    Unfortunately I'm not on the Sanctuary server. But I hear where you are coming from, and if you have an alt on Heaven's Tear or make one, I'd be happy to hang out and chat. :)

    To the people saying get a real life - do you ever stop to consider that some people have difficulty with social interactions, even medical issues? I myself suffer from Social Anxiety Disorder and while I don't spend my life hiding behind the computer screen, I can say it is a hell of a lot easier for me to talk to people that way. So what is better, having very few if any friends and living a miserable lonely existance, or having people at least to talk to online? Just because they aren't in the same country or city doesn't mean they can't become friends.

    Yeah I suffer from social anxiety to a point. I'll fight through it. When I approach someone, my body gets all hot from the anxiety. That part I haven't learned to control yet D:.

    My RL location = not good place to meet people.
    Rivi_V - Heavens Tear wrote: »
    Come to HT and I'll be your friend!! lol. Estimating with how much I've helped "friends" with their gear is about 600Mill+. Which I don't mind, however what I do mind is when they stop playing without consent. Little by little I find myself being more bitter towards making online friends f:meh . Partially it's my fault for being to "friendly" with people from the start.

    I know this feeling. Do not throw away your altruistic nature. Hold on to it, and hold on to it strong. At one point, I almost threw mine away. It's a large part of you, right? Trust me, you don't wont to lose it. Don't let a bunch of ungratefuls evaporate that within you. It's like the movie "Case 39". The little girl, or demon rather, her purpose was to find someone innocent and altruistic, and turn them into the opposite through emotional abuse.

    And (wow both of you are on HT..) moving there sounds tempting.. actually I've been wanting off of sanctuary, but what has kept me there is my character. PWI should realize with allowing name changes, they paved the way for server transfer. It's something to think about.

    Anyway, thanks all for your replies.
  • Deceptistar - Sanctuary
    Deceptistar - Sanctuary Posts: 10,454 Arc User
    edited November 2013
    im not sure how fast you lv but at least from the forum account it says your oct 2013 so im assuming your fairly newish? give or take a couple months ;o The games virtual but the relationships are pretty much same as any other irl, they still do take time to find, other than the casual hi's and hello's. The majority of the pple who are active on a daily basis youll find in probably one of the factions that have a land on the map, so looking around there is your best bet. Some dont require you to go to TW and are family friendly. Look through their website rules and/or try ask the faction officers for more info. Altho ever since they changed TW times, most pple can make the saturday one. An active faction is, for the most part, active because there are pple that uphold that activeness, and on PWI it tends to lean towards TW.

    I USED to be anxious when i first played the game. Same feeling as you. I think though if you hang around the forums long enough, it will help you overcome that anxiety more. That is how i turned from quiet and naive to brash n outspoken :3 derp Spend some time here and give it more patience.
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  • opkossy
    opkossy Posts: 11,177 Community Moderator
    edited November 2013
    Deceptistar - Sanctuary wrote: »
    quiet and naive

    Bwahahahahahahahaha! You funny!


    .... I miss stalking you ingame. b:sad
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  • Burnout - Harshlands
    Burnout - Harshlands Posts: 2,585 Arc User
    edited November 2013
    The best way to make fast friends is to actually do "something tangible" with them, for example, pve/pvp. It's easier in real life because there's a thousand things you can do, but in PWI it's hard for a R9rr+12 to do anything productive or fun with a TT99 geared player.

    Very few people, especially guys, are interested in "just talking" for hours on end.
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  • Zsw - Dreamweaver
    Zsw - Dreamweaver Posts: 1,087 Arc User
    edited November 2013
    Vennesetiid - Sanctuary wrote: »
    I don't mean to shoot down your suggestion. They are viable, but for me they will bring disappointment, considering my location in real life contains very anti-social people. To find what I want for the revival of my social life, I was forced to look outside of my state, and reach out to those abroad.

    And no I'm not looking for people just to keep me entertained.

    I seek a real deal friendship. But I guess you are right, it cannot be had in PWI. And maybe all those friendships, I've observed, were composed of personas and are just completely fake.

    I know that of which you speak. But perhaps it is distance that kills. Perhaps it is build into psychology many to seek that which is tangible. I still seek the answer.
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  • Sevchenko - Dreamweaver
    Sevchenko - Dreamweaver Posts: 661 Arc User
    edited November 2013
    Look.

    You wanna make friends, go to the school. Find a job, do some gym, whatever.

    Sitting your damn *** in a ****ing pc ain't gonna give you friends.
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  • Vennesetiid - Sanctuary
    Vennesetiid - Sanctuary Posts: 98 Arc User
    edited November 2013
    Sevchenko - Dreamweaver wrote: »
    Look.

    .

    That's where I stopped reading.

    I've graduated, got my freaking plague proudly reflecting the sunlight all over my room. And I've held one job for 15 years, which is probably longer than you've been alive.

    And I don't sit at my damn computer all day. But so what if I do? I keep myself off the streets, got a clean record, and I'm a proud gamer!
  • Temptatio/V - Dreamweaver
    Temptatio/V - Dreamweaver Posts: 301 Arc User
    edited November 2013
    Vennesetiid - Sanctuary wrote: »
    That's where I stopped reading.

    I've graduated, got my freaking plague proudly reflecting the sunlight all over my room. And I've held one job for 15 years, which is probably longer than you've been alive.

    And I don't sit at my damn computer all day. But so what if I do? I keep myself off the streets, got a clean record, and I'm a proud gamer!

    I so wish you are on DW server:) Just for this post would be your friend forever. b:victory

    Don't give up I know tones of people who made friends in game and they are now friends irl, talking to each other outside of the game and visiting each other abroad. You can meet grate people here that share same interest like you.
    I m sure you will eventually get some friends and if you ever come to our server hit me with pm button:)
  • Thrieya - Lost City
    Thrieya - Lost City Posts: 732 Arc User
    edited November 2013
    I'm probably the last person anyone should look for advice on friendships, given that some days I can log on, do all my dailies without talking to a single person whether out loud or in-game and log off completely content with my day. But the very, very few friends I do have here, I value beyond anything else I have.

    If you ask me, one way to solidify a friendship is to take it out of the game. I don't mean into the real world. Instead, chat and find topics that are completely unrelated to this game to talk about; relate to each other. IMO, a lasting friendship needs to exist beyond just this game, and if all you ever talk about is grinding/farming/PK/PvE/PvP/QQ/rich/poor/cake/cats/cookies/surprise earbuttsmex, that's going to get old, fast.
  • Deceptistar - Sanctuary
    Deceptistar - Sanctuary Posts: 10,454 Arc User
    edited November 2013
    OPKossy wrote: »
    Bwahahahahahahahaha! You funny!


    .... I miss stalking you ingame. b:sad
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  • GumyBear - Raging Tide
    GumyBear - Raging Tide Posts: 365 Arc User
    edited November 2013
    If you have a midlvl+ alt on RT come to CRUSH. We are a random, talkative, family like bunch. Tell them GumyBear sent ya b:victory I have made some good friends in that fac. Hope you come b:cute
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  • CapnK - Sanctuary
    CapnK - Sanctuary Posts: 1,166 Arc User
    edited November 2013
    Well I would recommend you join Enelysion. We have a lot of friendly, funny people and active forums (with quite a few artists!). But yes we are a TW-required faction, so you mentioned that won't work for you.

    Kakumau has several nice people in it and TW is optional for them, maybe try them out.
  • whiskerzz87
    whiskerzz87 Posts: 18 Arc User
    edited November 2013
    ok well making friends is easy, hi my name is Maz, it is short for mazumii, i play on dreamweaver in the faction FamDamily. see simpleb:laugh
  • Kane_lust - Heavens Tear
    Kane_lust - Heavens Tear Posts: 91 Arc User
    edited November 2013
    Your server isn't very crowded. Heaven's Tear is bustling. There are tons of extremely friendly people. We may not always be around but when we are we're always good for a laugh.

    Make the switch. You'll find a lot more going on with HT than any of the other servers.
  • CapnK - Sanctuary
    CapnK - Sanctuary Posts: 1,166 Arc User
    edited November 2013
    All estimates show Sanctuary is comparable to HT in population. Lack of people isn't the problem.
  • Sien - Heavens Tear
    Sien - Heavens Tear Posts: 153 Arc User
    edited November 2013
    Rivi_V - Heavens Tear wrote: »
    Come to HT and I'll be your friend!! lol. Estimating with how much I've helped "friends" with their gear is about 600Mill+. Which I don't mind, however what I do mind is when they stop playing without consent. Little by little I find myself being more bitter towards making online friends f:meh . Partially it's my fault for being to "friendly" with people from the start.
    Rivi! I was told you quit D:

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