Quit my job...

Death_by_me - Dreamweaver
Death_by_me - Dreamweaver Posts: 14 Arc User
edited December 2012 in Off-Topic Discussion
So i just quit my job tonight and i have mixed emotions about it, this is just me venting in the hopes someone will read it. Also in writing this i am hoping that it will make me feel better. You do not have to read this if you don't think it will interest you, this is just some drama from my life that is fresh in my head and i have to get it out of my system.

A bit of info on me before you jump in, i'm 20, i'm a male, and i am a Baptist who follows the Bible to a T, don't criticize me on any of this, this is my life. It's is how i chose to live it, and i don't tell you how to live yours.


I have worked for this man who owns a restaurant. i was a waiter, and i did what i was taught to do. every time i have done something wrong i got the wrath of the boss rained down on me. I have been able to take it for some time, but it has gone on long enough. I tried to talk to him, but every time i brought something to him i am the one that is wrong. never him, i have tried to live with it but it just didn't work out right... so a few weeks ago i decided i would look for another job, i did not tell him this (which i didn't know i had too) but when i gave him my two weeks notice on 12/21/12 he got all mad at me and blew up in my face... so tonight when i went into work he ignored me the entire time, when he talked to the staff he had is back to me, when him and i did run into each other he refused to look me in the eye. he didn't even look at me.

so i decided to go ahead and quit tonight, or at least that was the end result... he has someone lined up and waiting to take my position, i didn't want him to loose her during my two weeks notice. So at the end of tonight's shift i asked him how soon she could start so i could train her. he told me don't worry about it he will do it. so i asked him how soon could he get her to come in, and explained to him how i didn't want him to loose her while waiting on me to leave and that i didn't mind leaving early so it wouldn't happen. and he exploded, and started telling me every thing i did wrong, and how i have lied to him about leaving after so long... i could not get a word in edge wise. so when he stopped talking enough for me to say something the only word's i could get out of my mouth were "I quit!" i tried to thank him for giving me the job (which was my first in the real world by the way.) and he held me there for about another 30 minutes babbling on about how he has been so nice to me.

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After the end of his babbling he told me if i wan't to finish my two weeks show up Monday night, if not have a good life... now the problem is, i don't wan't to go back in there after this and it all relight and blow up again... so i decided i'm not going back, and i will not be going to pick up my last pay check. The entire reason i decided to leave is i don't like alcohol, and i don't like what it has done to families i know and truly love. so i refuse to serve it, well he told me that he was waiting on it on multiple occasions of me asking him and when i gave him my two weeks notice he told me he hasn't even applied for it yet... now i feel like i have been lied to and due to me being lied too i have lied to countless customers and i feel horrible about it....


in the end, i'm not going back unless i go to eat at his place, probably not for a few months... i wan't things to cool down. The big thing i'm worried about now is, he wasn't W4ing me, he is going off of W9s (this is legal stuff, if u don't understand don't worry.) i'm wondering when should i get that? i don't want to make 3K (in 2.5 months) and not get taxed on it, then i have the IRS on my tail... If you have gotten this far you are a mature adult who can help me figure this out, most likely. if not an adult then please don't answer, you don't have any info i could use.
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  • LaYsDiL - Harshlands
    LaYsDiL - Harshlands Posts: 124 Arc User
    edited December 2012
    From what i can see and judge from how you talk you seem like a very nice person...and other people nearly everyone likes to take advantage of the nice guy..they like to order them around, pick on them..you name it..just to make themselfs feel better, atm im in school. To be a social worker, of you would like to private message me u can, also has your boss ever threatend you or put hands on you..doesnt have to be hitting even if he lays a hand on your shoulder...you can report him..it sounds like he abused you emotion, you should report him, i can see weak people working for him, ans i can see him taking advantage of it...dont get me wrong, im not saying your weak...but ther weaker will takw it hard and emotion will come and they can devlop a stree condition or health problem, panic attacks, etc..if you like you said a baptist, i would report this if what you said is all true and you arnt just over doing it by bening upset edit* sorry for bad spelling im on my phone and hard using fourms on phone...pwi needs an app
  • Death_by_me - Dreamweaver
    Death_by_me - Dreamweaver Posts: 14 Arc User
    edited December 2012
    he has never abused me, never even touched me, he just got really upset tonight (I forgot to mention he is asian so he already has a short fuse, not racist just stating what i have seen.) i'm not going to report him for anything due to i want to try to keep a good relationship with him. i thank you for reading this in it's entire length, it was pretty long. i just needed somewhere to vent and this was the place. i feel better, and i am going to enjoy my week or so off before i start my new job, when ever they decide to call me in. i hated leaving my boss in the fashion i did, but there is no way I could go back... i have always been a meek person, and i think i fall behind in the real world due to that.


    There are a few other things that upset me, but they are minor so i chose not to even mention them. And yes, PWI does need an app for the forums!     Get on it PWI!!! lol


    And yes it is all true. just being the better man in this case.
  • LaYsDiL - Harshlands
    LaYsDiL - Harshlands Posts: 124 Arc User
    edited December 2012
    Heres a bit of an old saying *treat others the way you want to be treated*...for what you did (quit on spot) was the right thing to do, him as a boss really seemed to lose his cool and really showed you and whoever was there his true colours...your choice was a good one dont regret it and as for him lying to you and u thinking you did same to the guests thete well thats not truw, you told them what you believed to be true...right?
  • Death_by_me - Dreamweaver
    Death_by_me - Dreamweaver Posts: 14 Arc User
    edited December 2012
    I actually waited till it was just him and I left, then i talked to him tonight (probably not the smartest of decisions.) and correct, i did believe what i was telling them to be true. i just don't like being a liar, knowing or not knowing. which i'm sure you can understand.
  • soundslegit
    soundslegit Posts: 472 Arc User
    edited December 2012
    Your boss is a ****.
    [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]
  • BriarIce - Raging Tide
    BriarIce - Raging Tide Posts: 276 Arc User
    edited December 2012
    Hmmm your story sounds a lot like my first job.

    In the end as long as you are happy with the way you dealt with it then that is all that is important. You are out of there now so you can work on relaxing a bit after the stress that this job has caused you and look forward to a new and better one.

    The IRS stuff....that happened to me too. I am not from the USA but can say at my frist job out of school I was treated much in the same way you describe here. My boss had also 'forgotten' to pay my monthly taxes and medical aid contribution every month (although he deducted the money from my salary).

    I found all of this out when I had to have my wisdom teeth removed and the medical aid company refused to pay for it because they had not had any contributions to my premium paid for months and month. When I looked further into it I discovered that he had not been paying my tax either.

    Long story short I paid a lawyer to write a letter to him stating that if he did not pay the outstanding money to both the medical aid company and the IRS, and the dentists for the removal of my wisdom teeth and my backpay (not paid to me because I quit very much like you did..on the spot), I would sue him for not only that but report him to the IRS for tax evasion.

    End story. He paid it all. Last I heard his company went under. Not saying I did that but clearly the way he was operating his business was not conducive to long term stability.

    Not saying this is what you must do but just letting you know that I know what it is like to go through what you have. It is up to you whether or not you go down the legal route but I would advise you to do it. You do not want to get into trouble with the IRS because of him.

    Either way you are out of there now and you do not need to do anything about it right now. Try take the time to relax and be with family. It is a good time of the year to do that.

    After you have taken the time to relax then look at it again and see what way you want to go.

    Merry Christmas to you b:cute
    "Karma is a cruel mistress" - Kelley York, Hushed
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    Thank you Silvychar, for the gorgeous sig! b:kiss
  • Alsiadorra - Sanctuary
    Alsiadorra - Sanctuary Posts: 1,004 Arc User
    edited December 2012
    The initial quitting ALWAYS feels good. Then the next day the reality hits you.

    But you have the right to leave if supervisor is just too oppressing.
  • Death_by_me - Dreamweaver
    Death_by_me - Dreamweaver Posts: 14 Arc User
    edited December 2012
    Thanks for the help guys, and Alsiadorra it is true. the initial walking out felt good. but i already had another job lined up... so i am in the prosses of speeding up getting into that one.

    I hope everyone had a Merry Christmas! I know i did! :)
  • Niressa - Dreamweaver
    Niressa - Dreamweaver Posts: 2 Arc User
    edited December 2012
    I've had bad experiences in the past with work, in fact I've come to believe that there is no such thing as "the perfect job". However, I would just take all of this with a grain of salt and fine some place where you are respected. Every good, honest worker deserves respect no matter if they're a waiter or a manager. I hope you find a job that you like going to!

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