Can you find True Love on a game?

MomoYukino - Lost City · January 2012

Eh **** the naysayers, it can and does happen all the time. A game is a venue just like a bar or a coffee shop or dating site or any other place "irl". Like somehow the internet doesn't exist irl, come on. Like there's not a person sitting behind the keyboard typing. You can't tell any more about a person irl the first time you meet them than in a game other than their gender, race, weight, etc, nothing about their personality necessarily. It's the 21st century now, everyone uses the internet except for people that are too poor or too stupid, or maybe they don't have hands. You probably wouldn't want to date that person anyways. No offense if someone here has no hands ok? >.>

A good rule of thumb is to never believe anything until it's proven beyond a shadow of a doubt. Oh you're a hot sexy chic but you can't talk on vent because your mic is always broken? Go to the thrift store and spend $1 on one, sheesh. That's a dead ringer that someone is hiding something. And you can't send pics? Lol. And you don't have a facebook. Ok.

You have to know how to read people. Someone wc'ing for a gf is probably desperate and has issues. A predator won't be honest when it comes to personal information but will ask for a lot of yours and will ask for too much too fast. When you don't give it to them, they'll move on to someone else. Creepy people are creepy. You think creepy people with problems didn't exist before the internet? Take a history class. If you don't know how to spot a creep you probably shouldn't be doing much at all online. You have to know how to get facts. You have to know what real facts are. There are plenty of ways to do this and I'll only get into that a little.

A great one that in my experience very few people know about: EXIF data on digital photos. Just google it. I'm a professional photographer in case you were wondering and some of my work is for sale online. That's one way I can prove who I am. Aha facts! See that's what I'm talking about.

If you start out by casually being friends and it turns out there's more than friendship there it will obvious to both people. You should voice chat. You can tell a lot about people from their voice and even the background noise. Next you might exchange some photos. One time a chic sent me 3 photos that were obviously 3 different people, you don't have to be a CSI expert to realize this. I called her on it, she sent me real pics, and it turns out she was fat and ugly. No offense to fat ppl just not what I'm looking for in a gf ok?

Now you might video chat next but just take it easy, don't go trying to meet up with someone irl a week after you meet them online. Would you sleep with someone a week after you met them irl? Ok if you're that type of person you're asking for trouble anyways. No don't do that, take the time and get to know them. Like, a year. By now you probably have their facebook, msn, all the "normal" things people have, and you can check up on them in other ways. Like "normal" people do everyday. Yes sarcasm sorry. Try google it's great. Anyways if the other person really wants to be with you, they'll wait. Oh yes they will and if they won't then you deserve better.

Long distance relationships may not last as long as close distance ones, then again the exact opposite may be true. Anyone got statistics? It all depends on the people. What's the divorce rate? Pretty high. How many of you are still with your first true love? Not many I bet. How many of your parents are divorced? See people change over time, nothing is forever. If you can accept this fact your life will be a lot easier and less stressful.

I have great success meeting people online and then irl, it's happened 3 times so far and each time has had it's ups and downs but isn't that any relationship? I consider all my experiences positive, and I definitely have a better success rate than packs. then again I find it easy to talk to and meet people irl just the same.

TL;DR: You take a chance when you date, a chance that you might find true love, or a chance it might not work out. There's no way to tell until you do it. The same is true no matter what venue you meet them in. Divorce rate verifies this. Learn to get the facts and don't believe anything till it's proven. Cover your *** and protect yourself while you learn the other person. Time is the only ultimate test. There are no guarantees in life except death.

Met my current gf in-game and that was 2.5 years ago, yes we're planning on getting married.

Good god that's a wall of text... Sorry!! b:chuckle

senshitiger · January 2012

MomoYukino - Lost City wrote: »

Eh **** the naysayers, it can and does happen all the time. A game is a venue just like a bar or a coffee shop or dating site or any other place "irl". Like somehow the internet doesn't exist irl, come on. Like there's not a person sitting behind the keyboard typing. You can't tell any more about a person irl the first time you meet them than in a game other than their gender, race, weight, etc, nothing about their personality necessarily. It's the 21st century now, everyone uses the internet except for people that are too poor or too stupid, or maybe they don't have hands. You probably wouldn't want to date that person anyways. No offense if someone here has no hands ok? >.>

A good rule of thumb is to never believe anything until it's proven beyond a shadow of a doubt. Oh you're a hot sexy chic but you can't talk on vent because your mic is always broken? Go to the thrift store and spend $1 on one, sheesh. That's a dead ringer that someone is hiding something. And you can't send pics? Lol. And you don't have a facebook. Ok.

You have to know how to read people. Someone wc'ing for a gf is probably desperate and has issues. A predator won't be honest when it comes to personal information but will ask for a lot of yours and will ask for too much too fast. When you don't give it to them, they'll move on to someone else. Creepy people are creepy. You think creepy people with problems didn't exist before the internet? Take a history class. If you don't know how to spot a creep you probably shouldn't be doing much at all online. You have to know how to get facts. You have to know what real facts are. There are plenty of ways to do this and I'll only get into that a little.

A great one that in my experience very few people know about: EXIF data on digital photos. Just google it. I'm a professional photographer in case you were wondering and some of my work is for sale online. That's one way I can prove who I am. Aha facts! See that's what I'm talking about.

If you start out by casually being friends and it turns out there's more than friendship there it will obvious to both people. You should voice chat. You can tell a lot about people from their voice and even the background noise. Next you might exchange some photos. One time a chic sent me 3 photos that were obviously 3 different people, you don't have to be a CSI expert to realize this. I called her on it, she sent me real pics, and it turns out she was fat and ugly. No offense to fat ppl just not what I'm looking for in a gf ok?

Now you might video chat next but just take it easy, don't go trying to meet up with someone irl a week after you meet them online. Would you sleep with someone a week after you met them irl? Ok if you're that type of person you're asking for trouble anyways. No don't do that, take the time and get to know them. Like, a year. By now you probably have their facebook, msn, all the "normal" things people have, and you can check up on them in other ways. Like "normal" people do everyday. Yes sarcasm sorry. Try google it's great. Anyways if the other person really wants to be with you, they'll wait. Oh yes they will and if they won't then you deserve better.

Long distance relationships may not last as long as close distance ones, then again the exact opposite may be true. Anyone got statistics? It all depends on the people. What's the divorce rate? Pretty high. How many of you are still with your first true love? Not many I bet. How many of your parents are divorced? See people change over time, nothing is forever. If you can accept this fact your life will be a lot easier and less stressful.

I have great success meeting people online and then irl, it's happened 3 times so far and each time has had it's ups and downs but isn't that any relationship? I consider all my experiences positive, and I definitely have a better success rate than packs. then again I find it easy to talk to and meet people irl just the same.

TL;DR: You take a chance when you date, a chance that you might find true love, or a chance it might not work out. There's no way to tell until you do it. The same is true no matter what venue you meet them in. Divorce rate verifies this. Learn to get the facts and don't believe anything till it's proven. Cover your *** and protect yourself while you learn the other person. Time is the only ultimate test. There are no guarantees in life except death.

I honestly agree with every word. ^.^

I believe it is possible to find true love in a game, as it has happened to me. I know my love for about 3 years now, and we've been together for almost 2 years. So far it's always been great. We of course have our ups and downs like any other couple, though we never go into big fights. The number of things we have in common is very surprising. Our opinions, ideas and values match. I honestly think I will never find a better friend, or lover.

If this person isn't my soulmate, I doubt anyone ever will be. b:surrender

Alsiadorra - Sanctuary · January 2012

That quoted post reminded me of something.

1 yr ago, I had a good friend whom I wont name. She was 25 years old and canadian. Quite beautiful too, with a good head on her shoulders. She met a guy in the game that she fell really hard for. Things were going swell, until he admitted that the picture he sent her was not him. It was his brother. He did it because he wanted to test her, he didnt have confidence in his own looks, but apparently his brother was eye candy to girls.

This hurt her so bad, because it was not that photo she fell in love with. It was straight up HIM. She doesn't like being lied to. There's no telling what else he was being dishonest about.

Well later she met another guy and I don't know the rest there, since she quit and I have not asked him(he still plays and he didnt remarry in game so this could suggest that they are still together in rl) about her, but there were no problems and she was happy again up til the day she quit.

Really it's just like in 'real life'. Hit and misses.

I don't think I will find love again in PWI, though I made a tiny attempt 9 days ago. If she comes, she comes, but I've learned that actively looking for love, leads to disappointment and frustration.

Miugre - Heavens Tear · January 2012

Some good stories in this thread... o.o

I'd never be one to discount the fact that people can, and do, find fulfilling relationships in games, but to me I still take that with a rather large grain of salt. Because when I think of relationships that start online, I think of dating sites... and those look like just a huge mess of **** to wade through to find the one or two decent people you might have something in common with.

So what do you guys think - are game-born relationships more successful than dating-site relationships? There is, I guess, a certain merit in the fact that, hey, at least you know you both play PWI. XD

That said, I'd never have gotten married in-game if I didn't play with my RL significant other. :P But I do, and so we have three pairs of married characters. XD

Doc_Strange - Dreamweaver · January 2012

Im suprised there isnt a dating thread on the forums.

HexOmega - Dreamweaver · January 2012

Doc_Strange - Dreamweaver wrote: »

Im suprised there isnt a dating thread on the forums.

Hi, im interested in PWI!
Wat? ME TOO!!! Lets have sex!!!

Deceptistar - Sanctuary · January 2012

Namari - Dreamweaver wrote: »

TBH, when I first met Escorian, I was indifferent. I saw him as a friend but nothing more. A few months later, we're a couple in game with an intention to meet. Skip to a year later, we're engaged now and we have a 5-month-old daughter. We wouldn't change this for the world.

you guys sure hit the bed quick o.o 5mo+9mo preg= 1yr 2mo at the least at conception

Doc_Strange - Dreamweaver wrote: »

Im suprised there isnt a dating thread on the forums.

im sure pwi does not want to be liable for trouble.

mrdead12 · February 2012

k you guys got me

i got a ingame girlfriend she loves me alot but i dont love her.
and i still say her i love her..........
that only because to let her be sad ...

i got a big problem

Knownase - Heavens Tear · February 2012

I remember when I first started this game, I thought the marriage system was stupid. I really did, I personally didn't believe in online dating.

But over time, I was convinced that things can work out and you can have an awesome time, however that was really rare.

I only know of two couples who had a long distance relationship on PW, and are now happily living together, enjoying life.

U_Sasuke - Sanctuary · February 2012

LOL interweb. dating = srs bidness! b:angry

Bashmaster - Raging Tide · February 2012

necro ftw b:surrender

Baby_pho - Heavens Tear · February 2012

this is a difficult question lol. true love... personally i dont even beleive in true love. but i do beleive that two epople can meet in this game and have a real relationship when they meet one another in real life and become happily ever after. takes alot of commitment, pateince with many other factor to it. and there are many people who just try to corrupt your relationship if they are jelly ect... =.=' so you gotta talk to each other alot and have trust in each other. I know many people just try to break up people bc for w/e reason maybe they want what others have.

_Ink_ - Raging Tide · February 2012

Bashmaster - Raging Tide wrote: »

necro ftw b:surrender

Nice title, Bash. b:chuckle

Bashmaster - Raging Tide · February 2012

_Ink_ - Raging Tide wrote: »

Nice title, Bash. b:chuckle

Thankies inky b:cute
still necro btw b:avoid

_Ink_ - Raging Tide · February 2012

What? I like to play with dead things.*Pokes the thread with a stick.*

Graviora - Dreamweaver · February 2012

Baby_pho - Heavens Tear wrote: »

I know many people just try to break up people bc for w/e reason maybe they want what others have.

I can name a handful of these b:surrender I don't see why people want to break up a relationship that has nothing to do with them. If you really hate someone's signifigant other... then you should distance yourself from BOTH people.

XScootaloo - Dreamweaver · February 2012

in b4 mod lock. and i see this thread full of wisdom and equil parts flank fluster. makes me hownder how many of the ponies saying LDR wont ever work were in more then there fair share of horrible ones.

Ajiuo - Harshlands · February 2012

Graviora - Dreamweaver wrote: »

I can name a handful of these b:surrender I don't see why people want to break up a relationship that has nothing to do with them. If you really hate someone's signifigant other... then you should distance yourself from BOTH people.

Well considering it works the same in RL as it does in game, girls (rarely a male would care enough...) can be crazy to the point where they will break up a couple and steal the boy just to say she can get whoever she wants whenever she wants. She might not even like the boy and she might not hate the girl, she just does it for the pleasure of knowing she's the "best", but it just comes off at major **** and bitchy.

Still a necro, poor thread b:chuckle

Mendolin - Sanctuary · February 2012

i learned one thing useful in this thread... you can say **** on the forum

b:cute

Bashmaster - Raging Tide · February 2012

Do mods not have the heart to close such a lovely necro thread? b:chuckle

Graviora - Dreamweaver · February 2012

Ajiuo - Harshlands wrote: »

Well considering it works the same in RL as it does in game, girls (rarely a male would care enough...) can be crazy to the point where they will break up a couple and steal the boy just to say she can get whoever she wants whenever she wants. She might not even like the boy and she might not hate the girl, she just does it for the pleasure of knowing she's the "best", but it just comes off at major **** and bitchy.

Still a necro, poor thread b:chuckle

I'll have to tell you what I went through about two months ago b:chuckle These people (yes, people. Two men, two women) were effin' crazy.

Tsukyini - Raging Tide · February 2012

Knownase - Heavens Tear wrote: »

I remember when I first started this game, I thought the marriage system was stupid. I really did, I personally didn't believe in online dating.

But over time, I was convinced that things can work out and you can have an awesome time, however that was really rare.

I only know of two couples who had a long distance relationship on PW, and are now happily living together, enjoying life.

I would get married in game for the marriage quests, but that's it. I'm happily married IRL and have no desire for an e-lationship. b:shutup

However, I did meet my husband in an online game, in a fantasy that is never quite final. b:chuckle

Riverwell - Archosaur · February 2012

Ephemera - Raging Tide wrote: »

Definitely wouldn't play a game with the intention of meeting someone for a relationship; meeting people in your area in person is much more realistic. The only relationships that start in games and seem to last are those that were stumbled upon accidentally--i.e. you met a friend in a game, started talking, got closer over a period of time, and then developed feelings for each other. Anyone who's actually looking for a relationship in an online game is going to be sorely disappointed.

I haven't read the whole thread, but this is basically what I was going to say.

PWI is supposed to be a game, not a dating service, the successful relationships that usually happen, happen by chance, and usually take awhile to get to that point.

Darkhawkbarb - Heavens Tear · February 2012

ill share my story with you. i married my in game wife. b:cute

after 11 years

so if you cant find love in game, you can bring your own b:thanks BUT BEWARE! now shes my faction leader too. so if i do bad in tw....b:surrender

Bashmaster - Raging Tide · February 2012

why hasn't necro been closed yet? o.o

JugalateJudy - Dreamweaver · February 2012

my sister met a guy in another game a year ago, he moved 2 weeks ago in romania for her. Thats a sweet love story, too bad it wasnt in perfect world, they geting along great now. I was in love in pwi too, with my husband (gotta log on and see if he didnt divorce me, havent been playng for like 6months), we still keept in touch after guiting pwi, but we lost contact cuz we didnt manage to meet b:cry

Reikara - Heavens Tear · February 2012

Well yes and no.

Love comes from friendship. All the relationships I had that started in real life (from meeting guys at parties) failed, obviously. I was young and stupid at the time but you gotta live to learn. Jumping right into a relationship, even though you seem to have a level of attraction to the person and they seem interesting is set up to fail from the start. I eventually met a guy online (through a forum of spiritual & philosophical debate, not a game but still online) who had basically all the same ideals I had. We became close friends, talked constantly for over a year and then we decided to take it to the next level and enter a relationship which soon won't be so long distance anymore. >:3

Basically, real true love comes from friendship. They're not just your wife, husband, boyfriend or girlfriend, they're also your best and closest friend. I think it's important to remember that fact.

ShadowsFlame - Raging Tide · February 2012

so i can get married to my in game wife and have babies too b:cute

LilWolfy - Heavens Tear · February 2012

_Ashleigh_ - Raging Tide wrote: »

So many people are in these "online" relationships. I wonder if it can be just as good as the real thing or if its true that people pretend to be everything you want only to find out later they're the complete opposite. b:surrender

I truly love myself, so to answer your question.... yes

P.S. i dont much like myself or anyone else, i just found my above response funny.. so i said

Ellipse - Harshlands · February 2012

Having had my share of online relationships, I'd find it very hard to believe, except that I knew a very happy couple a few years back. They met online, they talked, they were happy. They got married online, started an alliance together (this was in Jade Dynasty, hence the alliance), made other friends... I was very close to the guy, he is a few years older than me and treated me like his little sister, and I dare say I have never met a guy in real life as trusting in his girlfriend as he was. They trusted each other so fully, I even got jealous of what they had. Then, one day, they met up in real life... And fell in love even deeper. The girl, my age, sixteen at the time, had a hard time convincing her parents that she really did love the guy, but in the end...

Well, they're still happily in love

Can you find True Love on a game?

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