Let's talk about ("relationships")

Alliptica - Raging Tide · October 2010

i had some in game relationship drama too once. lol i had this in game gf but she had a real life wife. and she spoiled me lol and after 5 days of "going out" in game she was saying i love you to me like every day. which i consider cheating! but she never let me see her picture or hear her voice which now come to think of it makes me think it was really a guy...so my *** got played and his wife got cheated on! godamn i just stay away from this in game realtionship **** now cuz it will **** u up

and also lol, i have a friend from another server who actually met his rl gf on pwi in an FC run :P

Black_wolve - Sanctuary · October 2010

Granted some do find that special some one here but there are way to many who never met each other here and to say i love you or to control the other or by going in to there accounts and pretending to be there spouse is a bit childlish i would think.

And you can imagine that some of thease player's are what age 13 and up play on here and if thease kid's are doing this. Where are the parents that would be my question?

Also how can a person fall in love with some one they never met in real life or never spoke to on the phone or by email etc Is love that blind that a person will take that risk?

I spoke to seval women in the past and 1 infact told me she chatted with this 1 guy for 2 years i think it was. Come to find out he was a registerd sex affender she told me she was shocked.

Another friend who i married because we do know each other in real life she's going through a rl divorce but we did it because we r close friends but to tell her story and i rember this like it was yesterday.

It started may or june 2009 we where doing some quest we met this bm from germany he seem pretty cool and his son was playing to we got along and decided to grind etc Well he was getting a bit close to my friend and wanted to help her level so he would take her to the high lv mobs and grind with her at first it did not seem bad but as it continued it got worse infact he became control freak he didn't like me or other people that spoke to her.

She did get scared and told him to please back off a bit he got pist off at her and then when she could not take it much longer she took him of her friends list and blocked him.

Now thinking this would take care of it his son question her why did u say u would marry my dad and why did you lie etc . Now this bm knew we all where joking 1 day because we met another couple from canada that was getting married in real life so where just playing joking the couple knew it in canada but this man from germany took it differnt.

So what choice did she have but to report him later on a few months later this guy said to other's that she reported him as a hacker omg that she never reported him as 1 dont ask me why he thought this lol.

But in any case as i first posted this forum what jsut happen to me and my lady friend and granted some here told me they had lost relationships over games like this even friendships fighting over a toon or starting gossip so the whole game knows what's going on is a bit childlish and if a person has issues in trusting there partner then address it out side the game siple right?.

My sister married this guy omg another story now this guy was married in real life she was married in real life to but they where friends but yet this guy decides to make a new toon and flirting with other women on the game including the friend i married she turn around and told this guy why are you fooling around on your online wife? Now this get's better she tells my sister and told her to read what he was saying in there chat box omg ww3 started then she divorced him fast.But he was realy tring to pick up a woman online another words wanted to cheat on his real life wife.

And this has happen male and female alike i seen this i have friends males and female on here and i tell them first hand that iam here to play not to mix up with the drama and i keep it as that i do joke now and again but it's all fun and they know this but 1 day i was in Eitherblade my lady friend introduced me to this veno as a friend so i said cool i like to talk to new people as i found out she was asking questions about me and wanted to know who i was in real life i said omg not again turn out that she was single living by herself and was a ful blown drunk and she started to ignor my lady friend and started to follow me all over the game.

Now i said to her out strait iam very upstrait and i do tell it as it is iam not interested in dating iam here to play this game thats it. Well she got mad oh well life go's on.

But i can understand if a rl couple is online and help the other out by using there account while he or she at work i have np over that but when he or she trys to lie and pretend to be there spouse and wants to know who there spouse is talking to then that person has some realy bad trust issues and then thats how a fight starts can you imagine comming home from work have your spouse yell at you who your talking to on a online game and then has a major fight over it and for what a toon?.

It's not like that person going to jump through the pc screen and cheat i mean god some of thease people have some issues dont they?.

This is what iam typing about relationships i hope some of you can realy see where iam comming from or at least understand what iam typing.

I thought myth wars was bad or euodemons lolb:laugh

But dont take my word for it some have to learn on your own.

Axelire - Heavens Tear · October 2010

It may only be in-game marriage, but it sure generates a lot of drama.

My #1 tip is this:

If you experience trouble with your love bunny, instead of spending time and energy trying to work out your pixel problems, just go find a new fluffier, scalier love bunny, whatever your preference may be.

If you've invested real feelings into the relationship then... WATCH OUT b:bye

Ivy_ - Dreamweaver · October 2010

TL;DRAOI

I do get the gist of it though, so I will say just this.

I met my fiance, over a year ago, playing this game. Yes, we've had our share of in-game drama. But we ignored it. Any two people who care for each other can see through the BS. And a year plus later, we're engaged and we recently moved in together. So in-game relationships can be a good thing too.

We both have our computers next to each other, so sometimes he'll look over on my screen or type on my screen, and vice versa. Nothing wrong with that, as long as you tell the person who you're speaking to that you are not the original person. Pretending to be that person for whatever malicious reasons is just wrong, and I'd beat the hell out of my fiance if he tried pulling that junk. But I trust that he won't. And that's the main thing that works in any relationship, whether in game or not.

And for those who say "it's just pixels", those behind it do have feelings too. :P

akatsuchi · October 2010

Black_wolve - Sanctuary wrote: »

But i can understand if a rl couple is online and help the other out by using there account while he or she at work i have np over that.

Very well said b:cute This was exactly the point I was trying to make here! That's exactly what we do.

Pressa - Heavens Tear · October 2010

Humans love drama thats not happening to them. Its why blues is so popular as the robot from Futurama said "The blue the tragic sound of someone else suffering thats kinda a pick me up." So where ever there are humans there will be such things I believe they almost make a society if there aren't such things the group seems................empty. Its like this in pretty much all games you will play neigh in everything you do from sports to work to games to bars everything has such things some people tune them out others simply watch fervently enjoying themselves. So why do such things? Because they are real people and real people have real problems and real problems manifest themselves anywhere.

Kaste - Sanctuary · October 2010

Well I have to say, I seen a few of couples that actually worked in RL.

There was a guy from America and a girl form Croatia. He actually went there for a weekend just to visit her.
Unfortunately the relationship broke up after like 2 years, though they still play together and still are close friends.

I have to say that, PW is nice to meet new people and stuff, BUT it can also be a reason for couples that play together as I seen a 10 year RL relationship break because of the game. It may sound silly, but it is true.

Also I once got robbed by my ex-ingame-gf, as she had chosen to marry a guy from her neighborhood instead of me - living like 3 h away form her. I told her that 2 marriages would be really expensive, as I was the only one paying for it. Well well, now i changed my code to Uber-hardcore xD.

BarbLord - Raging Tide · October 2010

OP Do the entire community a favor by either learning how to make your posts easier to understand(this means better spelling and grammar)(and yes I know mine isn't perfect either but I think it's better then the OP's)
Or just stop posting all together because I don't think many people like thinking this much to somewhat understand what you wrote

grimreaperhc · October 2010

There are many people who met in PWI and actually fell in love with each other. I guess there's nothing bad with this since there are many people who met through internet and become couples. I know a few people who met through internet and now they are married and living happy together etc.
I met my girlfriend via facebook and I can say that we are really happy together even that we are in different towns and this is painful because you can't cuddle your beloved person when you need him/her.
I would just say that we are all people and that we all have feelings which we can't repress just like that, it doesn't matter how you look like if somebody likes you the way you are.
Just my 2 cents. b:surrender

Ytrid - Heavens Tear · October 2010

b:cute I didn't expect to meet anyone in game, i was here to just play and have fun when i was bored.. But I did meet this really wonderful guy and helping each other here and there turned into questing ALLLLL day, witch in return turned into long talks about this that or the other... Eventually I found myself really liking the guy who played the barb and not just the in game fun of having company on my quest.. After a ton of in game drama when we got togehater we started spending time togeaer out of game video calls, anything we could think of to get to know the real people behind the toons better... Now a year later i am with this wodnerful man in RL, and he is amazing. I have so many friends who dont understand how MMO's can lead to love... but only someone who plays them can truly grasp what happens in game and how emotions grow.. I did while i played PWI would log his acct on to like Do his daily s for him while he was on holiday, barb buff mutual friends of ours who was in PvP, tank a friends FB, and only after asking permission go goof off as a barb to get away from being a veno... I also have to say i got lucky, but I am one of these people who fell for the guy without seeing pictures, or hearing his voice... there is more to love and emotions than looks and you kinda get to know the people beyond there looks first. ... but i am happy to report HE did turn out to be a TOTAL HOTTIE!!b:dirty

alfonsealborn · October 2010

Black_wolve - Sanctuary wrote: »

I realy have to say in all the games i have played there's very few i dont have to deal with this issueand if any one else had this issue please by all means speak up.

I understand that this is a online game we all play to pass time and have fun etc but also when it comes to marriage on here i have to ask why do couples use there spouse accounts and why do they pretend to be the other ?

Iam not kidding in almost 2 years now i been on pwi i have incounted seval who do this i had a couple in my faction a while back it was a nice couple infact they where living together but as i noticed i caught on that the male was pretending to be her and took her and him out of the faction and why because the female wanted to talk to my online wife for opions and some one to talk to as grown up's would you know a friend .Are some people that possessive that they have to know who there online spouse is talking to it's like omg it's just a game not Real life.

Then i also incounted this my online wife has guy friends and women friends it's normal to have friends but this guy says 1 day oh my rl wife dont want me talking to you and why she ask because she felt as she was flirting with him but yet had no idea that there was no flirting but being friends. Now i realy think that some people have realy bad issues on here how can a person be jelous over a toon it's not like your going to trave a million miles to the other part of the globe to cheat omg b:laugh.

Like this ok how do you realy know who your realy chatting with thats my question like the most resent one is i say hi to a friend that person says it's not her it's him it makes you wonder wow ok im sorry i thought it was her and all i can say is iam happy if you guys are together in real life you never know thease days but yet 1 says 1 thing the other says another you dont know who is tellig the truth who is lying and all you can say is look i am not getting in between you to and they get upset .

God is this game turning in to 1 giant soap opra or what? It's just a game nothing more so you get married on the game so what some just do it for the mq quest some are doing it there reasly involved in real life but please keep your real life issues out of the game all i ask it's becomming he said she said or dragging people involved in there issues making every one else lifes hell my online wife was blamed for stuff she never said or done i have to but some couples seem to think they dont have the issue it's every one eles fault and blame others or some protect the other even though 1 of them is the one who caused the problem but yet they blame it on the person they tried to get involved.

This game should go on jerry springer or dr phill to many issues and way to much bs if you know what i mean.

But there's a solution if a person going to be that posseive over the other than why play the game or why use the others account to get infol who there spouse is talking to etc that it self is a issue .

It's a game to have fun to injoy it's free why ruin it over stuff like this .This is why i brought this topic up i know others who have been accused of saying or doing something they did not do and some i know quit this game got tired of the bs and gave there toons to there children to play.

I can promise a person this if they try to pull a fast one and pretend there some one else i know by the way they chat or the way they type i delete bouth of them of my friends list and if they ask why i just tell who ever it is iam not getting involved.

Any how as adult i do know the differce between a game and real life it's kind of funny how they accuse or harrass or fight over toons i mean realy grow upb:laugh.

First off...that was annoying as hell to read. That's a problem that needs fixed, people learning to type in english. o_o

Secondly, I think you deleting someone because someone else gets on their account...is stupid. lol My best friend has my account info incase something happens and they need my toon or something. I also met my girlfriend Sabrina on PWI. We talked for a really long time and go to know each other. We now talk on the phone, she's on my facebook and etc. I'm not worried about her cheating on me because...Nevermind. You wouldn't understand. =P Were going to exchange account info soon. I'm giveing her my info to show her I have nothing to hide. We both have our futures planned out...and were scheduled to meet soon. I can't wait, because after that, we're going to live together. x3 It all depends on who you are inside. Some people don't believe in online relationships, some do. You're talking about people haveing issues about it...yet you're the one with the issues, complaining about it on a forum. Or talking about it, whichever. Couldn't understand most of what you said anyways. Anyways, love can come from anywhere, at anytime, from anyone. Don't go look for it, let it find you. b:bye

ChopChop - Raging Tide · October 2010

What part of "its just a game" dont people understand ?

Sure you can find a relationship in a game as you can on a forum but you didnt start to play expecting to find love. You played i assume to play an MMO and hopefully have fun like everyone else.

No one should say its wrong to find some one be that in a game or by any other means.

The point is its is only a game. Keep your relashonship problems or any other real life problems out of the game and all will be fine. I personaly dont want to hear what hang ups others have. Tell me your thinking of commiting suicide and ill replay hurry up as i have my own problems i dont want to share yours aswell.

When i log off any game its back to reality a wife, 2 kids and 2 grand kids and believe me i need some light relief with the wife i have b:chuckle but i sure wouldnt burden anyone else with my problems so dont share yours with me .

Ohh and just to add im realy a friendly person who would do anything to help anyone in the game aslong as they are looking to play for fun because i hate people who take the game seriously .

Born_Free - Harshlands · October 2010

ChopChop - Raging Tide wrote: »

What part of "its just a game" dont people understand ?
.-. Well of course it is.

Sure you can find a relationship in a game as you can on a forum but you didnt start to play expecting to find love. You played i assume to play an MMO and hopefully have fun like everyone else.

No one should say its wrong to find some one be that in a game or by any other means.

The point is its is only a game. Keep your relashonship problems or any other real life problems out of the game and all will be fine. I personaly dont want to hear what hang ups others have. Tell me your thinking of commiting suicide and ill replay hurry up as i have my own problems i dont want to share yours aswell.
You know, there's a reason why the internet was made. It was to communicate information across the world, and make people get in touch. If you don't want to hear people's problems? Move to an island near the coast of Cuba and enjoy yourself.
Some of us? They don't have the support or love that others have in reality. The internet is one of those ways that they can feel like part of something. That's the point.

I was about ready to call it quits on life before I met my fiance. With my overbearing parents, falling school grades, and no future ahead of me, I was contemplating some of the worst things a human being can.
My fiance, was the leader of a well known Harshlands faction at the time. I had joined his faction with the hope that maybe I could be something useful to someone. I had been feeling hopeless for a very long while. He had been deployed in the Afghans for a while. He had just lost his family in a court case, and his ex girlfriend(s) had shunned his need for someone to talk to, thinking that he was just fine over the matter.

And until that night when he pulled me up on skype, I had never seen a guy cry before. I mean, REALLY cry. He broke down completely. And I felt so sorry for him, that I stopped thinking about how my life was just so horrible...because compared to his? It wasn't NEARLY as bad. Not even close.
Since then, he's asked me to marry him. (I said yes.) We married ingame, and have been since July. Two years from now, when he gets out of deployment and I'm done with school, we're getting married.

If you had told me I was going to get married a year ago, I would have never believed you. I was in a very deep hole. Partly because I sought to escape reality, partly because of perfect world, I found something that saved me from hurting myself...and I ended up saving a man's life.

It's human nature to seek out other people...and NOT talking about problems? That's not healthy. But like I said, don't want to deal with people's problems? I'm sure there's a patch of Cuban real-estate with your name on it.
One of these days, YOU may have a problem that you can't speak about in real life, or you don't know where to turn...and there are people who ARE kind enough to listen...maybe then, you'll understand, who knows. Some of the best friendships and relationships are forged with the longest of distances.

When i log off any game its back to reality a wife, 2 kids and 2 grand kids and believe me i need some light relief with the wife i have b:chuckle but i sure wouldnt burden anyone else with my problems so dont share yours with me .
Congratulations. And I mean that sincerely.

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ChopChop - Raging Tide · October 2010

Born_Free - Harshlands wrote: »

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You know if your problems are that bad that you need to talk to strangers theres the Samaritans . There beter qualified than most if not all people you will meet in a game .

Like i said most people play to have fun not get depressed by some one whos life has hit rock bottom.

Also if your so easily cheered up by some girl/guy you meet in a game either your problems wernt that bad or you will top yourself if she/he ever dumps you and yes i do know what its like to have your life riped apart.

SerenityMare - Dreamweaver · October 2010

ChopChop - Raging Tide wrote: »

You know if your problems are that bad that you need to talk to strangers theres the Samaritans . There beter qualified than most if not all people you will meet in a game .

Like i said most people play to have fun not get depressed by some one whos life has hit rock bottom.

Also if your so easily cheered up by some girl/guy you meet in a game either your problems wernt that bad or you will top yourself if she/he ever dumps you and yes i do know what its like to have your life riped apart.

No. You are wrong. People you know online could make you feel better just like a person in front of you. Sure, you won't be able to give physical affection but still they can help you through rough situations and whether it was that bad or not. Behind the computer and that chatacter your are talking to is a person.

MMOs wouldn't be as fun if there were no other people to play it with. Whether it's your bf/gf or just a friend, that's what makes the game fun.

Michael_Dark - Lost City · October 2010

Born_Free - Harshlands wrote: »

Two years from now, when he gets out of deployment and I'm done with school, we're getting married.

Have... you even met yet?

buttercupcruella · October 2010

Wow, I'm shocked to see such responses. I got so used to 'bro, this ain't no dating site', that I had no hope for any of the stuff I saw here.

I'm stunned!!!

I do not look for any gf - bf relationships in game, but I do enjoy just talking to some people. They have their problems, I have mine. Sometimes, you don't have a person right beside you, or you feel more comfortable talking to a person that you don't know irl... There can be multiple reasons. Yes, some people made me feel better irl, just by talking to me in game, and giving their opinions based on believes and or experience.

However, at the end of the day, it is JUST a game. Maybe, because I don't need it to be anything different...

Xarathox - Dreamweaver · October 2010

I was going to post a reply about the issue at hand. However...

HOLY MOTHER OF GOD!! this thread is full of bad grammar.

Zahlee - Lost City · October 2010

Michael_Dark - Lost City wrote: »

Have... you even met yet?

O.o that's what i was wondering.

To the op:

Yeah, I think some relationships in-game can get a bit overboard on possessiveness. For instance, i was on my sin on heavens tear partially afk, i know lol bad spot to be afk, but anyway, i was munching away on my lunch irl while watching the screen when another sin came up and i watched as he pked me.

His ingame wife then came up and was standing beside us and the dude thought it was funny to keep doing the sitting action on my face, just being a smartass. So, I put my food down and made a comment like "ehh smells fishy down here." He then said to his wife "Ooooo she's funny, can we keep her?" She replied a huge NO!! and i said something smartass back like aww why not? and referred to something along the lines of being like a lost puppy that needed a home. (ehhh i know, not the best comment of the day lol, but they were the ones who wanted to "keep me" and i was just going along with the "theme") b:surrender

Well did she go off her rocker as she suddenly jumped to the conclusion that i wanted to jump her husbands bones lol. Calling me one shot and telling me to f*** off, saying something about can't i see that she's his wife blah blah lol. I told her there was no need to get so nasty and to stop thinking dirty (After all, what kinky things would they do with a puppy!!??) and then told her i was just gonna lay there dead while i went afk for a bit. To be honest, i just didn't see the point in arguing with a crazy lady. lol

So as soon as she thought i was afk, she started chastising her husband about how he needed to stop flirting. Now to me, there wasn't any flirting involved and the dude was just being a downright smartass. I mean, he said a whole of 7 words ffs lol. Besides, i have a RL husband so any in-game relationships do not even enter my mind. I just prefer my man in flesh and bone rather than pixles, thanks. But it's cases like these that makes me wonder if they even know each other in real life, and if not, then they have some serious personal issues going on. Hell, even if they did know each other in real life, there's some serious trust issues right there.

On another note, i know that some people can have successfull relationships over the net which can lead to wonderful relationships in RL and i say good for them. b:victory Just remember to stay safe and use e-protection lol. Because rememeber that gourgeous smart, young, sexy girl or guy could turn out to be a balding 55 year old mass murderer, or the 12 year old kid down the road thinking he's cool because he's got an adult-like e-relationship. b:shocked

The_owner - Lost City · October 2010

Ahhhh Romantic Long-Distance relationships....

On another MMORPG you would get this reply for even "Marrying" someone....

"L0L Y0u DATE ONLINE! ROFL NO LIFER!!!!!@!"

And their ends my reply b:laugh

Edit: Note This is what another player would say if you were ina "different" place. I usually keep all my opinions to myself. :-)

DaKillanator - Raging Tide · October 2010

Deora - Lost City wrote: »

tl;dr

this.
try spacing out your thoughts better next timeb:surrender

grimreaperhc · October 2010

We are all people and we need to love and be loved. No matter if this is in RL or in PWI as long as the both persons are happy and feeling good.

MystiMonk - Sanctuary · October 2010

I could never understand the concept of marriage in this game it isn't in the other one I play although that doesn't stop other from doing it.I don't like the idea with banner over my head saying xxxxx wife.

Kaste - Sanctuary · October 2010

MystiMonk - Sanctuary wrote: »

I could never understand the concept of marriage in this game it isn't in the other one I play although that doesn't stop other from doing it.I don't like the idea with banner over my head saying xxxxx wife.

I think the other way, allowing marriage allows people that are ingame couple or just friends to connect themselves, as you will always see their name when playing

. If you want to get married, but hate the xxxx wife, turn off your own name ^^.

Susylu - Heavens Tear · October 2010

Kaste - Sanctuary wrote: »

I think the other way, allowing marriage allows people that are ingame couple or just friends to connect themselves, as you will always see their name when playing . If you want to get married, but hate the xxxx wife, turn off your own name ^^.

actually I think you have to turn off other player's name, or player titles, just turning off your name will have only the xxxx wife showing.

Born_Free - Harshlands · October 2010

Michael_Dark - Lost City wrote: »

Have... you even met yet?

Hush Michael. No fishy for j00. b:scorn
And I tell you what, if this doesn't work out, I'll call you sometime. b:kiss

@ Zahlee: My thoughts exactly...
It's not so much that I don't have a life as it is that there is nobody around my part of the world (*COUGH* BELGIUM--) that interests me. You honestly just have to be careful about how you go around meeting these people...ask them to download Skype and video/voice call you if you're not entirely sure. And if they say they don't have a mic/camera?

I wouldn't call them back. I wouldn't risk the chance of them being that 55 balding rapist or the 12 year old boy down the street who thinks he's tough **** for having an e-girlfriend. No ty.

Silest - Sanctuary · October 2010

I like how most of the married(game marriage) couples are either cleric or a barb, or a cleric married to a barb. Or any class married to either of those 2, which obviously benefits people. I rarely see a male BM married to a female BM and so forth.

Yeah you guys sure know all about love and ****.

Nigello - Dreamweaver · October 2010

"I met my fiance, over a year ago, playing this game. Yes, we've had our share of in-game drama. But we ignored it. Any two people who care for each other can see through the BS. And a year plus later, we're engaged and we recently moved in together. So in-game relationships can be a good thing too.

"

Congrats, you two! I'm glad to hear things are working out for ya.

Samaela - Dreamweaver · October 2010

Silest - Sanctuary wrote: »

I like how most of the married(game marriage) couples are either cleric or a barb, or a cleric married to a barb. Or any class married to either of those 2, which obviously benefits people. I rarely see a male BM married to a female BM and so forth.

Yeah you guys sure know all about love and ****.

That also may be due to the fact you often quest with people outside your own class. For me it's far easier to do mid/hard quests with a tank/DDer, than it is to quest stuff like that with another cleric. So naturally I often hang out with them instead of clerics and get to know them better.

Love with someone you met in the game is just as real as the love you have to the chick next door. It's not how many times you make out or go to the movies together that counts, but the feelings that you have for eachother.

Michael_Dark - Lost City · October 2010

Born_Free - Harshlands wrote: »

Hush Michael. No fishy for j00. b:scorn
And I tell you what, if this doesn't work out, I'll call you sometime. b:kiss

I'm glad you're 'in-love' and all, but planning a marriage 2 years in advance when you haven't even met for a cup of coffee is a little premature, donchathink? b:chuckle

And that's sweet of you, but I only like to have fun. b:avoid

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