Love life and this game

this game can get boring pretty quick, give it time.

WarrenWolfy - Sanctuary wrote: »

If it's as bad as you're describing, then you already know the solution. Leave.

The way you describe your relationship, it sounds like you're striving to be a martyr. I don't know enough about you to tell if it's a self-esteem issue or if you're perhaps just seeking sympathy, but in either case it isn't healthy.

If you want the relationship to work, stand up for yourself, and calmly, confidently, and firmly let your feelings be know. If you two can't reach an agreement over this, then end it.

Best advice you could of hoped for.

You yourself know what your going to do and say, so like Warren said stand up for yourself and let your feelings be known calmly, don't go shouting like an idiot (trust me it doesn't work) but talk to her about it, if you cant work this out then she isn't the one you want to be with for the rest of your life because after PW they will be something else.

WarrenWolfy - Sanctuary wrote: »

If it's as bad as you're describing, then you already know the solution. Leave.

The way you describe your relationship, it sounds like you're striving to be a martyr. I don't know enough about you to tell if it's a self-esteem issue or if you're perhaps just seeking sympathy, but in either case it isn't healthy.

If you want the relationship to work, stand up for yourself, and calmly, confidently, and firmly let your feelings be know. If you two can't reach an agreement over this, then end it.

Best advice you'll get here.

Successful relationships work when a couple are able to get through anything together. This should be something that you can calmly talk about together and resolve. If you can't sort out problems like that as a couple then there's no real future.

Also try to be a little accepting of the game. Hating the game and feeling jealous of the attention she gives it over you isn't healthy, after all it's a pastime she really loves doing and something that makes her happy. Definitely let her know your feelings and that you'd like to spend more alone time with her and that you love her company, but don't forget alone time is something you both have to want, if you force it then she's only spending time to keep you happy.

One time my GF at the time didn't talk to me for a day because I didn't invite her to an fb. I uninstalled that same day.

Give it some time, try doing random fun stuff for a few hours each day in the "real world". If she's not going to get up from the game to go out to eat with you or go to a movie, then talk to her and strongly consider leaving.

She has a responsibility to put some work into the relationship; if she's not doing her part, and is unwilling to change after you talk to her, she's probably addicted. And probably won't listen to anyone for awhile, until she realizes the toll the game takes on her life.

Well, as far as advice in a situation as this goes:
I myself would try to do some more w/ her irl... Look what u both enjoy to do, nd go for it, don't be lazy!
I can imagine she`s playin online cuz of boredom in RL, so change that and u might find the girl know nd love b:cute

Rawr feel so weird to post here, lemme know if it somehow seems use full b:surrender

If it's as bad as you say, (and I can decipher) then she sounds like she's not interested in you anymore. Rather than be up-front with you about it, she's just ignoring you; end it. Don't waste your precious time on someone who's not even willing to discuss legitimate concerns in a relationship.

Get out while you can, cause marriage won't make it better.

Dude, to be honest I don't see it working out for you two. You both obviously share entirely different viewpoints. She's a gameaholic...and you're not. You can't forcibly change someones way of thinking. If gaming is her life, then that's that.

For example both me and my gf love gaming. We play games for hours on end everyday, gaming and even pw nearly always pops up in conversation whenever we're together...and we're both content. Any issues with time-spending we've discussed and resolved without a problem. If you're waiting for her to drop the gaming and forget about it and move on you might end up being disappointed.

Either accept who she is or just leave it. Perhaps you'd find if you accepted what she loves doing and had no issue with it, she'd be happier, more willing to be open to you and in the end more willing to enjoy your company?

Lemme give you my experience:

My last girlfriend, who I was with for 5 years, was in the same position as you are in now. I enjoyed gaming and eventually spent much more time playing on the computer than spending time with her. She often would get mad, cry and plead for my attention.

Eventually this lead to us breaking up.

Now, a couple of factors went into this. First, as any 'gamer' knows, sometimes there aren't enough hours in a day to accomplish what you want. 1 more level, 1 more mob, a few more minutes to finish some dungeon... eventually all those things add up to way more time on the computer than you originally anticipated. You know this, but at the same time some magical force keeps you from stepping away until it's finished.

Someone needs help, some war or some mass pk is going on, some drama is happening that you just can't step away from without giving your opinion.

It's the addiction of gaming that many people are guilty of having.

Secondly, and not saying this applies to you, but another reason I played so much was because quite frankly... it was just more fun than spending time with my girlfriend. It didn't start that way. It's not like I didn't love her, but after the constant whining and nagging... it sure got old really fast.

We had issues to begin with, but her constant nagging drove me to a point where I just didn't care anymore. It turned from irritation to almost disgust. I didn't care if her feelings were hurt. I didn't care if I ignored her.

Anyway, long story short...

I'm now engaged to another girl. I still play, and probably more than I should, but a few things are different from that last relationship.

Probably the MOST important difference is that my fiance now is much more independant. She has her own interests and her own hobbies that she is able to do independantly of me, yet at the sametime we have our time to do things together. My last girlfriend was rather needy for my liking and the attention she required was more like a baby than a partner.

So my advice...

Get a hobby and deal with it or dump her ****. Make sure you can get a refund on that ring as well.

She's a game addict. I'm sure she loves you still, but her playing time won't stop until she gets bored. Sorry.