Since the discussion was (rightly) closed I thought I'd message you.
For one, it's hard for me to take offense at most anything lol. Even if offense was intended, and I can tell that it wasn't.
Second, thank you for the advice, I may take you up on that channel since I do like to chat once in awhile and I may be open to joining a team if someone needs someone to fill one out. I do try to do the missions even if I'm not sure what to do, I can still cover someone who might need it while doing what needs doing. Stuff like that, while I learn what's going on. I'm not much for ground TFOs, but I might try them with a team who like what you described.
During one of the MU Events I did have a numbnut try to troll me (U suck! kind of thing) and since I rarely check chat during those things I didn't even see it till it was over and s/he was gone.